Hi Jimjams
Sorry it's taken a while to get back to you - here are my thoughts (for what they're worth!).
In terms of the meeting (is SALT going to be there too?), I would go armed with actual suggested wording that you want in the statement, for them to go away and consider (may well not be possible for the LEA officer to agree or disagree to things on the spot). I find that this is much more productive than just saying general areas of disagreement.
From my reading of it, the LEA have mentioned support (just about!) when they've said, "Initially additional resources will be allocated to help the school meet A's complex needs". I would definitely push for the LEA to specify the amount of hours (or cash equivalent) that they are going to be providing to the school. I would also ask that they remove the 'initially' from that sentence, as it sounds like you are agreeing that the hours will be reduced. If, at a later date, the LEA want to reduce the hours following an Annual Review, they should do this as a separate issue rather than suggesting it at this point. As your ds is under 5, his first Annual Review should be after 6 months of the date of the statement. As I mentioned before, I don't know whether the LEA would just specify the 0.8 or would have some way of putting the school's 0.2 in as well.
I'm afraid I can't help at all on the wording about the transition from nursery to school - are the LEA aware that you are effectively planning a split-placement between nursery and school until ds is ready to transfer full time - that would certainly have implications for the wording of the support arrangements - the LEA won't want to be funding 0.8 support at school if he's not there for 0.8 of the time! They may need to put something in about pro rata support.
You will have to check at the meeting that the outreach teacher for pupils with a communication disorder will be able to provide a service to the school in the other LEA.
In terms of the SALT paragraph, if they put in "from a trained LSA" after "daily individual support" then that seemed to match pretty much what you wanted if they then address the training issue in another point. For example, 'Advice and training to school staff from XXXX regarding use of symbol or pictorial systems including PECS and classroom support strategies e.g. visual timetables'. I've put XXXX instead of SALT as you would need to clarify with SALT and the outreach teacher, which of those two would provide the training. It would also be worth checking that it would be the same Health Authority providing SALT, as it would be awful to agree SALT provision with one Health Authority only to find out the Health Authority covering that school won't implement it.
You said in your earlier post that small group wouldn't work for your ds - this term could mean paired work - ie your ds, with the supporting LSA, working with one other child (not necessarily SEN). So, your ds would still have his support, but there would be another child involved in the activity too. I don't know your ds so I don't know whether this sort of arrangement would be an option in some situations, or are you saying that your ds will only work one to one with his LSA and no other children at all times?
In terms of playtimes and lunchtimes, as fio2 says you could ask for a point to go in about ds' vulnerability. e.g adult supervision at playtime and lunchtime to ensure his safety. You may also want to tie that in with needing support to develop social interaction skills within the playground setting.
There didn't seem to be anything in the statement about developing ds' social interaction skills and peer group relationships - might be worth thinking about having something in there e.g structured and supported activities to develop social skills and peer interaction.
Sorry for such a long post. It's good that the nursery manager and the school are both going too - would the nursery manager be able to help you put together some proposed changes / additions to the statement? As I said before, it is much more productive to go there with a clear idea of exactly what you want in the statement, rather than just saying that you're not happy with what they've written. Often the proposed statement is just a starting point to kick off the negotiations.
Hope the meeting goes well on Friday - post again if there's anything before then that you think I might be able to help with, but we're away for a week from 20/7 so I will be out of contact for a bit.