Ok, just asking questions as they occur - I never expected to get such a lot of responses, it's great!
Devexity - interesting what you say about your DS being a symbolic pattern person - English isn't great for patterns in some places (you know - words like 'yacht', homophones and so on) - did he find those tricky or did he seem to put them together ok?
Pippa - does your dyslexic son still struggle with phonetic stuff? Eg., if you asking him what 'boat' without the 'b' is, can he get it right?
There's a theory that I understand is the current front-runner about reading, which posits that people access the sound of a word even when they're reading silently, and even if they don't really need phonics to decode it (ie., because they've already learnt the 'picture' that word makes). Obviously, this isn't how profoundly deaf people learn, so it's not completely universal, but it is something I'd be very interested in understanding more about.
FWIW, I didn't learn to read until I was 7 and a half, which I really hated as I loved books. Then one day it suddenly 'clicked' and I never looked back. I was learning 'look and say' and used to get into trouble for trying to sound out words, but oddly nowadays I'm a fast reader and scan very fast, which are attributes that I've been told don't often go with strong phonetic processing.
I'm trying to think about how people used to read, and what it would have been like living in a society where literacy was unusual, but becoming massively more widespread, very fast.