Vicar wants to send his dd to private school even though he is the Governor of lovely inner city school

[iamnotaprincess]

I am really disappointed and angry about this. Ds goes to a CoE primary school here in inner city London. We were all expecting the vicar, school governor, to send his dd to the school, but no, apparently he is thinking of sending her privately. I feel outraged. It is a good school, very inner city, but a good school, the children in ds' class are thriving. How dare he? And he is a vicar!

[rabbitstew]

Not wrong, but you were an idiot if you didn't think people would be asking themselves why you did it.

[IsItFridayYetPlease]

Thanks for that rabbit!

[rabbitstew]

My pleasure, IsItFriday.

[Lilymaid]

Not uncommon for vicars to send their children to independent schools whilst being governors etc of local schools. One reason is that vicars tend to move parishes fairly frequently (every seven years) so putting child in an independent school in area but not local makes sense if (s)he moves to another parish in the diocese as child can more easily have continuity in education.
And many schools offer scholarships/reduced fees to clergy children.

[Madcatgirl]

Two things.

1.) stop judging others, I'm fairly cortina Jesus said "judge not lest you be judged".

And

2.) never sacrifice your children on the altar of your beliefs.

[rabbitstew]

If you can be fairly cortina, can I be fairly fiesta?

[CheeryName]

I agree with Madcatgirl. Though I do enforce my Nestle and pink/blue Kinder Egg boycott on my children.

[TheWordFactory]

I'm a governor at a school where I don't send my children.

TBH, they asked me to do it, and I thought I should try to help out. But I anit gonna send my kids there.

[Madcatgirl]

You can be an escort if you like.

Obviously that should say certain, stupid autocorrect.

[rabbitstew]

Obviously, if I were to be an escort, it would be a high class one.

[Spotsonmydots]

This really is none of your business.

[minifingers]

Private schools enable the children of well-off people to clamber up over the backs of children in state schools who are just as intelligent as they are but who get less teaching time.

It's unfair, but for some reasons you're not expected to support the idea of equality when it comes to your own children.

Vicars are just as grasping as your average mumsnetter when it comes to their children.

Live with it.

[minifingers]

"stop judging others"

No, no, go ahead and judge.

I do!

[timeBandit]

Assuming the school is oversubscribed, perhaps he's convinced himself he's doing some other family a favour by freeing up a place. Our local vicar, and school governor, lives practically next door to the school, and presumably signs his own supplementary admissions form to say he's a practising churchgoer, so his kids must be pretty much top of the list of priority for admissions.

[RolloRollo]

Sometimes it is better to not mix your 'business' (governor role) and 'private' (DDs education) life. I am a teacher but would always avoid sending DD to the same school.

At the end of the day it is his decision, you don't know his full circumstances and reasons and education is a private choice.

PS it is probably for the best, you otherwise would have heard non-stop about issues he has experienced through his DD at governor meetings rather than him taking a broad view. Being a parent and governor (but not in the parent governor role) would impact his role and make him have a more one-sided view of the school.

[Badgerlady]

As a vicar's daughter myself, there are very good reasons for his daughter NOT attending the school where her sad is The Vicar. She will always be the Vicar's dd to other children, parents and teachers. Believe me, that can be hugely frustrating. Everything you do and are is seen through the lens of your clergy parent. Not to mention the teasing that arises from your parent doing assembly, leading services etc.

The vicar is doing the best for his dd by sending her to a school to which he is not connected.

To the person who said the being a vicar is a calling, of course it is. But clergy children were not 'called' and had no say in the matter. The fact that the world and his wife thinks that your parent is public property is not easy.

The fact you feel you have the right to judge the Vicar's private, parenting decisions, really sums up all that is difficult about being a vicar/vicar's dd.

[prh47bridge]

This thread is 4 years old. I doubt the OP is paying attention.

[Badgerlady]

Gosh! Sorry. Just saw it in active and didn't note the OP date!