Parents of 6 year olds. Would you be OK with this video on sex ed?

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Video shows a diagram of a vagina, which points out the clitoris and the audio goes on to say this is the clitoris and sometimes when you touch it, it makes you feel good. It also shows a diagram of a penis inside a vagina and states that this is sexual intercourse.

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I would be hopping mad. What I tell my 6-y-os about reproduction is my business, not anyone else's. I'd be writing letters of complaint left, right and centre.

I dont mind it tbh-think its pitched well.

That was a really good video about differences, but I didn't have to watch a video about this until I was in Year 6. Maybe most 6 year olds are too young, but its not that graphic. If they showed it in Year 3 or 4 I think that the video would be appropriate.

Actually, I'm quite re-assured after watching it, I'd happily let my 6yo watch it. I would prefer for us to watch it together rather than it being done at school though.

but which six year olds need to know this?

mine doesn't

why do you think yours do?

extremely odd, really really odd

mine didn't, I should say, I don't have any six year olds any more

they survived not knowing this

amazingly they aren't pregnant or nor have impregnated anyone yet despite not knowing this

well, it's the truth...it depends if you think they should be told that sex is also for fun at this age! I think it might confuse them, actually. I don't remember even knowing that the clitoris existed until I was about 15.

As a mum of an 11yo ds and a 6yo dd I wouldnt be happy with my dd watching this.

Why does my dd need to know at 6 about her clitoris?! She is well aware of the outward signs of differences regarding her body, as she used to share her baths with her brother when they were younger. She recognises that her brother and daddy are different to her and mummy but I really dont think any further info is needed at this age. What happened to keeping children as children?

We are bombarded all the time with info on how we need to tackle teenage pregnancy by discussing sex and babies earlier and earlier but in reality pregnancy rates amongst teens is still at an all time high and its not because they haven't learnt about reproduction.

I teach in a secondary school where sex education involves all students learning about putting condoms on, using full size erect prosthetic penises.... watching graphic videos on birth and videos on STD and what can happen to their genitalia and reproductive organs if its not treated..so how come each year we have girls leaving after their GCSE's pregnant?

Its not working... and I for one do not want my children to be shown this in the classroom. I would much rather discuss their bodies changing, their changing feelings etc with them at home not in a classroom.

My sons school have not even broached sex ed with him yet (he is in yr6 - the school have chosen as well that they feel sex ed is more suitable for older year groups)and yes we have spoken at home about where babies come from etc, but we chose when to tackle the subject and to what depth we wanted to go with the topic in relation to his age. State education is forcing this sex ed onto very young children.... as someone else said why on Earth would a 6 yo girl need to know about her clitoris yet?!

I hate being told when and at what age all children should know this.

I don't mind my DC having this level of detailed knowledge at this sort of age - they do. However, I don't see what need there is for school to inform them of the above at age 6. Until about age 8 I think it should be on a need to know/as they ask basis.

lots of things are true but we don't choose to share them with our children

like, for example, the fact that sex is not always fun and does not always "feel good"

sometimes it is humiliated, forced, embarrassing, painful

a six year old doesn't need to know these things because they are "true"

my 6yo ds isn't mature enough for that. His elder brother may have been [not convinced tbh, but maybe] but this particular 6yo isn't.
He's got the general idea like Noah says, but not to that degree. Slightly un-necessary detail for the age of the children imho.

I didn't realise that not knowing "sex is fun" was a direct cause of teenage pregnancy

perhaps they start young because they know it will be ghastly and need to get used to it

This was one.

DD is 6 and still avidly watches "Show me, show me" on Cbeebies. No way is she reay for this information...imagine it...

"show me, show me...vaginas!"

OR

"show me show me a randy Chris
Show me, show me an orgasming Pui"

I think not!!!!

I'd be fine with the diagram of the vagina and the clitoris but I'd think the penis bit is going a bit too far for children so young.

what penis bit? the bit where you see the basic workings or the bit where intercourse is explained?

My ds1 was 6 when I was expecting ds3 he asked alot of questions and I gave him the answers-Ive explained everything, I dont want him to be embarrased by his body or what it does and as consequence now at nearly 9 he talks to me about anything has no hangup about being naked around me or visa versa.

The knowledge he has about sex and reproduction was given to him in an age appropriate way but truthfully, he can now distinguish between the playground chatter and doesnt feel "a bit lost" with regard to this grown up stuff which is naturally talked about by kids as it is shoved in their faces everywhere from music videos to tv adverts, bilboards and so on.

Children see sex everywhere it is used to sell everything! it must be quite odd for kids to see this adult world played out for their eyes in such a way! by arming my son with the facts and the opportunity to come and talk to me about anything at anytime i feel I am doing the absolute best for him.

And yes of course a child can know about her clitoris! why on earth not!! and with regard to sex for pleasure, yup that too and you know what even rape-it is in the papers, radio and tv news my ds can read and has asked me these questions, affairs, brothels etc etc i remember asking my mum at 12 what virginity was (after watching grease!) and she told me she would tell me when I was older, she never did! but i worked it out from the playground, I dont want that for my children, I do believe that open and honest explanations about things are the way forward, Im not telling him to go out and have sex! I am explaining the emotional things as well (age appropriate)

I came from such a prudish household and am determined that when my sons need to talk to me about this stuff they will already know they can! they will already feel comfortable with it as a subject because they always will have been.

Its just sex you know!

My children have had no sex education at their School, I know it's in the curriculum so I don't know why. Anyhow my DS is 11 and started puberty at 10 so I was getting concerned this hadn't been covered. Therefore I recently bought him the "Lets talk about sex" book which had good reviews for his age group.

I am open with him and answer questions but DH gets embarrassed so I thought the book would be ideal for the more man type stuff. Anyway we briefly flicked through it and I left him to read it on his own as he said he would rather this than together.

When I asked a day later if he had read it he said not all as some parts he didn't like because they were weird. When I delved further and it turned out it was the genital diagrams and the frank sex stuff.

He is quite naive so I said there is no rush just read the bits you are interested in i.e. changes in body, internet safety etc and leave the rest for later when your ready there?s no rush. I did say however that it was all perfectly normal and natural as obviously don't want him to have any hangups!

So if my 11 year is finding the diagrams a bit off putting at his age how can they be suitable for a 6 year old? I also know sex education is necessary but surely not at 6.

iMum I think that bit might be on a different video.

I don't want to watch and judge the videos linked just yet - THE DCs are hovering and i want to see first before i judge iyswim.

NA it does appear that you are drip feeding us this "story" a wee bit.

On the face of it i don't see the harm in children knowing the proper names of their anatomy (its NOT a fairy ffs ) and at that age i am sure that most children of either sex have discovered that it feels nice to touch themselves somewhere. If that is approached sensitively and age appropriately it's fine.