Fraudulent application

[pollyanna1098]

Hi - I am savage as my child has not got into our first choice school.
I know for a fact that a child has got a place on what I think is a fraudulent application.
This childs parents have divorced and the child spends 4 nights a week with her dad and 3 nights with her mum.
They have given the dads address as her primary residence.
Surely her mums address should be the official one ?
Am I right ?

but her dad's address is inside the catchment and she spends the majority of her nights with him. poor kid, you want to take away her school place as punishment for having divorced parents?

but I am so cross - its never right

Why isn't it right?

Because I think they make the child stay at the dads house for 4 nights just to get into the school

lol.

To get all this information from this parent, you must have been friendly with her.
With friends like you, who needs enemies?

Oh blimey.

But even if that's why she stays there, she stays there.

And again, are you friends with the mum, that she would tall you this stuff?

L knew what they were going to do.
I just needed evidence

Erm - let me spell this out to you very slowly.

She is entitled to apply at either address, because her parents have joint residence. Both addresses are equally acceptable. As it happens she applied for the area she spends most nights, which makes your point even more unfathomable.

Tell me, if she had applied at her mother's address, and you wanted that school, and she got in despite only staying 3 nights rather than 4, would you be nodding sagely and saying, ah well, her GP is registered there...? Like hell you would - you'd be posting this exact same thread. Where exactly should she be educated? If neither address is acceptable?

You know lifes not fair, it just isn't and the sooner some people accept that then the less stressed they'll be.

You can appeal but expect not to get anywhere with it. Think about the positive things you can do for YOUR child rather than creating problems for another child.

so does she stay at her dads mon,tues,wed and thursday? and her mums fri, sat, sun? if so I think it makes sense to send her to a school in the dad's catchment area rather than mums, no??

oh , so I cant do anything about it then

It would seem not?

Is it your friend's child?

Yes , but mine comes first

even if you could make some sort of accusation of fraud stick, if it was me hearing the case i'd move heaven and earth to see to it that you weren't rewarded for your naffness and would give the new place to some other child on the list.

Yikes.

x-post.

and

eeeeuw.

"Because I think they make the child stay at the dads house for 4 nights just to get into the school".

What, like some people buy or rent near a school they like, instead of one on Special Measures?

Firstly they are just trying to do right by their child. Secondly, shared residence is very common these days - increasingly so - and your thoughts may be a tad shaded by your child's not getting a place - no? It could be an arrangement they actually want for, you know - fostering good relationships between their child and both her parents. Good on 'em, either way.

are you new to MN?

are you new to RL?

heheheheh aitch

On the evidence here, you are not putting your child first. This is not a good example to be setting. In fact its a bloody awful one.

yes , its a bit scarey
Dont hink I will be on again. I thought people would be sympathetic

I get what you mean AitchTwoOhOneOh, it would sound petty bringing up the other family. Although i know that this is a big deal when you're in this situation. Sleep on it for a night or two, Polly.

I think this is a wind-up and I think I've heard this name before or something that sounds like it.