Do all children get "good" school reports???

[Blossomhill]

Just wondering as my 2 have always got good ones with no negative stuff in. Just wondered if all reports had to be positive or if it was just my little darlings

We have to be positive. I do try to sneak in the odd , much deserved, negative tho.

It must be so hard for you HMB as there are some real little terrors in ds's class and I can just picture ds's teacher writing the report through gritted teeth

I think the clue with school reports is to look for the omissions, which basically means your little darling is a little sod when it comes to this but as I have to be nice about them I have missed it out.

DS's report wasn't good IMO. The comments on his behaviour were good and he is a kind, sensitive 7yo. But she was rather harsh in other ways about his work.

hmmmmm

Art "Ds often works at half pace"

Geography "Ds can be disorganised, lethargic and easily distracted. He needs to adopt a more mature and sensible approach"

History "anything that ds has acheived this year has come about in spite rather than because of his attitude to the subject"

Music " ds has made little effort in his composition/improvisation work. Written work is rarely done. Homework is rarely done. ds's behaviour is less than good. After a disappointing start there has been a furhter deterioration"

and so on and so forth - so in answer to your question ........

no

They didn't call him ds by the way!!

Lilibet - how awful for you
How old is your ds?

12, first year of secondary school - he hasn't settled well.

and if I tell you that actually it wasn't as bad as I expected.............

On a positive side, they give you the highest and lowest mark in the end of term results and your childs mark and considering that he has paid so little attention he has done very well. For example geography is between 82 and 38 and he got 55. So all is not lost and with effort next year they have said that he can be a world beater!!

In intellegence tests he is above average for the school and the school is above average nationally - just needs to knuckle down a bit!

Mt- My DS's teacher has a downer on his educational ability. After the spring term parents evening DH and I made an appointment to see the head teacher as we weren't happy with what his teacher told us.
DS moved schools at the end of yr1 as we moved areas. (he loved his old school hates his new one, I wish we'd never moved..but I will beat myself up in private later) At the last parents at his old school that had said that his level was an easy Level 1a, progressing well no problems other than abit of a dreamer.
Parents evening at new sch when he has been in yr2 for 2 terms. Teacher says not making much progress maybe hes a 2c won't get any higher unless dreaming ( big problem now) gets much better.
See head promises to look into it. Writes to us by the end of the week saying that they had sat there practise sat papers and Jack had scored no less than a 3c in each paper wtf was that teacher talking about?? does she really not know his ability that much.
Anyway DS's report came home and was exactly like the parents evening. Very annoyed, next parents evening thurs will see what she has to say.

My school (I teach) encourages the Boll%*k sandwich approach....

Good comment
Room to improve
Good comment!!

lilibet, I'm glad DS's report wasn't as bad as you'd feared! I'm sure he will knuckle down, he's had a lot happening all at once and it's not an easy age as you know - the comments sound quite fair, I'm expecting some along those lines for DS2, if he isn't doing homework on time or at all we need to know!

I like the top/bottom/your child mark, our school doesn't do that, we just get a grade which is sort of helpful but not very specific.

BH, IME (and overlooking Xena's, her DS's sounds terribly harsh for 7) primary school reports tend to be much less negative than secondary.

no. i get this
ds1 - doesn't try isn't interested
dd - more interested in talking and being popular
ds2 - no ability, forgetful, not on this planet, never had pe kit /pen /books /homework diary ( depite leaving house with all of them) has no aptitude

used to get good things said about dd when she was in junior school. alas it's all gone to sh*t.

have got to the "i give up" place

well ive just got ds's report and it says he only attended so many sessions out of so many since september and his attendance needs to improve.

that would be fine, but he only started the school in April! (and left again today, i will add). hmmphhhh..thrown out by computer i suspect.

Custy, i think that Ds1 either eats or sells his pens - he has gone thru 25 since Easter!

Gosh no. Ds gets weird reports: yards about his achievements academically and then at the end wham "his behaviour is unacceptable" (which it is, frankly).

Obviously your two deserve their good reports!!

Ours seem to be a collection of phrases written in computer-generated National Curriculum-speak. I think as others have said, the key is in the omissions. I note there is no comment on dd1's behaviour, which presumably translates as "has been a lippy PITA". However, I think in this case the teacher could usefully write a report on her own behaviour over the year, including why she sees fit to answer her mobile phone so often during class that all the children know her ring tone by heart.

Ds's however, did say: "It has been an absolute pleasure teaching him this year." [proud, warm, melting emoticon]

His abilities are nothing out of the ordinary, btw. He just has the knack of endearing himself to teachers. Useful, that.

No. Nuff said (anyone who remembers my previous threads will understand!).

My dd report was very good academically, but when it came to personality and friends it wasnt as good, she's very bossy and likes to lead and can't except it when others get fed up with her

on the other hand ds report was blooming, his teacher absolutely adores him and it was very clear in his report ds is a wonderful child etc etc. I get the feeling she wanted to adopt him

My mum is a teacher - another one who has to at least phrase it positively, even if the subtext is not so good! Told me about a parent who was upset when their child's report said they were "over-enthusiastic". Parent couldn't understand how ever-enthusiastic could be seen as undesirable on occasion.

lilibet - its true i agree, i get boxes of pens from work for evening meetings i have with residents. i bring them home and my ds gets them - he gives them to his mates who forget theirs.
dh works on his own in his own office - he can get hold of looooooooooads of pens - they all go missing.
i bought a box - that went inabout 2 weeks

then we go to parents evening - tell them this and they give you that " of course you do" look

I have loaned students pens over the last year and must hve had abou 80 nicked! Sad but it pissed me off after a while!

DS2 used to get "a pleasure to teach" at primary level (apart from one old boot) which was lovely, but he's in Y7 now and hasn't had what you'd call a good year - several disciplinary incidents - and for virtually every subject the teacher has said that he is immature, shouts out, lacks concentration and fails to hand in homework.

Most of his marks were quite good and they all said he could do really well if he pulled himself together - must be the most annoying kind of child for a teacher, the one who can but doesn't . He seems to be taking it seriously - today - but how he'll be after a few weeks back next term I don't know. (The shouting out tends to be class clown stuff - the other kids think he's hilarious )