One child in private and one child in state edcuation?

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We are thinking of moving our DS2 to a small private school.

At present both our sons are at the local high achieving primary. We've always intended for them to stay there and then go on to the highly regarded catholic comprehensive that it feeds.

We thought we had eductaion sorted.

However, Ds2 now in Yr 2 is struggling a bit at school, and the school is very rigid in it's grouping and he feels he is 'rubbish'. If he remains where he is I can see these feelings remaining. So we are thinking of moving him to a small private school with small classes and a more nurturing atmosphere.

DS1 is in Yr5 at the primary and doing well. We have discussed his brothers possible move with him, he is adamant he does not want to move school and that he wants to go to the comprehensive with all his friends.

I have told him if he ever wantde to move to the same school as his brothe he can.

I have done a search on here on this issue of siblings in state and, and there is alot of negative experinces from people whose familes did this.

If my DS1 is doing well, wants to stay where he is and go to the good comprehenisve, will he still resent us later for sending his brother private?

If we always let him know that at any time he can choose to move like his brother so that we are not limiting his options, will this help?

I have also said that if he goes to the comp as he wants to, if he started to fall behind and not do well, we would make him move then. This seems to be a big motivator!

Thoughts and opinions appreciated.

Jumping in late in the discussion here, but is it not worth persevering and tackling the issues he's experiencing now head on, working with him and the existing school for a solution? Are you certain the private route will fix the problem?

My experience of private school is that it can be pretty ruthless if you're not "swimming", but "sinking" academically, and could do more damage to confidence and progress than good if the root cause is not addressed. My DS had similar experience in Y2 feeling rubbish etc but now in Y3 is seems to have "caught up" emotionally and academically with the peers he was comparing himself to. I did extra work with him, as did the school, to improve his confidence and it's made a big difference as he can see how good what he CAN do is rather than what he can't do.

FWIW for part of my primary education I was in private school (due to relocation) but my siblings weren't and there have been no on-going issues or resentments.