my son has been given an IEP and although i know 'why' i do not know what it means for him?????

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Not sure if this should be in special needs or not

Can anyone help?

DS is 12 and we had sought 'help' with him because of a few ishoos we were having with him at home and socially

He displays some aspergers tendancies but only majorly (if there is such a word) in one area of the aspergers triad.....

so the team are writing to his school with an iep...no idea what this means...is he on the special needs register?
What will school do with it?

feel a bit dim for not asking - i did ask lots of stuff but overlooked iep

thanks

just remembered..

i rang his year six teacher when we sought an asd diagnosis as i remembered something she had said at a parent teacher consult and she clearly remembered..

she taught him for two years and he was bright - old for the year top of the class

but she said whenever he got something wrong he 'had no idea how to respond' would 'pink up and look genuinely confused' some children accepted it ds - she said- 'evidently did not'

all that has happened since then is that he has learned to vocalise that infact he is NEVER wrong - nor is anything he does

( and yes indeed black really is white!!)

Although I didn't get an AS diagnosos, I did get the county chief consultant psychologist to come to school and discuss strategies and coping mechanisms, that seemed to impress the school! he does seem to be getting better at dealing with situations, he has no sense of humour, cannot cope with teasing, doesn't pick up on "normal" social restraints and basically says exactly what he thinks! But he is learning to walk away rather than lash out and he hasn't been excluded since before Easter-something of a record!

how old is he primary (sounds VERY similar)

Nope, he's 15 and at secondary now-a selective grammar who are slowly beginning to realise that a lot of their boys have emotional and behavioural problems. But he has beed]n "different " since he was very young, never has friends, can't cope with losing at anything ( party games were a nightmare, he couldn't understand why he didn't win!)dyspraxic, dreadful at sport and only prepared to do anything when he knows he can ( if you see what I mean, he refused to read until yr 1 because he didn't think he could do it well enough, when he decided he could, he just started and has never stopped! I would agree with cat64, try to get the psychologist on side ( our clinical psychologist was great, the consultant less so but he was the one who scared the school silly!) and agree the IEP targets between you. You're his Mum, you know what works best!

cat64 he is at a selective grammar school and the mental health team were horrified about how badly the school filled out ds questionnaire. A 'few' teachers had a bash at it and vast swathes were left untouched

they basically said 'problem? what problem?' ds is bright

since then the senco has telephoned us to say how sorry she was about how badly it was handled. We know her quite well and ds1 was her pet!!!!

ds2 very different and i think after one year at the school ds2 has been riding in ds1 slipstream ......