My DD is 3 and she too is dragging me along cos she is so desperate to learn. I came on here a number of months ago and asked for people's opinions etc... everyone was very helpful!
From a personal point of view... yes it is very important to not push your child, you know when they have had enough etc, but at the same time I don't see why you should hold them back when they are desperate to go, go, go!
We tried Jolly Phonics (bookswww.amazon.co.uk/Jolly-Readers-Complete-Set-Level/dp/184414075X/ref=sr_1_6?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=12442 06769&sr=1-6, wall chart, actvity books www.amazon.co.uk/Jolly-Phonics-Workbooks-Books-workbook/dp/1870946502/ref=sr_1_25?ie=UTF8&s=books&qi d=1244206511&sr=8-25) and really didn't get on with the whole system. We found with our DD being so young that Letterland was much better as there is a name they can link to each letter/character easily. Which meant that to start with she was only saying 'Annie Apple'... but only a few weeks later she now is saying 'a' as well! It also means she won't have to do the exact same thing again when she starts school as they do Jolly Phonics.
Raid your local charity shops for books and alphabet toys as it can be expensive to try things out and find they don't work with your child! We managed to find VHS's, reading books, a teacher's resource book, games etc. And paying 25p to try something is fantastic!! You soon find out what they like, they keep asking for it and pick up the same thing over and over again!
We got the flashcards to go with the charity shop finds and also a PC game(although she's not had much chance to use this yet as I got it at the same time as Dora PS2 which she asks for first!!!) as she liked the Letterland system. www.amazon.co.uk/First-Reading-Flashcards-Letterland-Wendon/dp/1862092273/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books &qid=1244206430&sr=8-1 www.amazon.co.uk/ABC-Adventures-Letterland/dp/1862093962/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=software&qid=124420663 9&sr=1-1
We started doing letters a couple of months ago and to my surprise yesterday she told me every characters name and the sound they make! She is also talking about the sound that words start with and sometimes the sound they end with. She is also very interested in words that rhyme, though I think this may be her brothers influence!
We've also printed off the phoneme's from www.sparklebox.co.uk to stick up in her room... although not up yet as I've been waiting to laminate them!
Some days she's not interested, other days she just wants to learn, learn, learn. So we do things as and when. Anything can be an opportunity to find letters and numbers!
Also we have upped the trips to the library, not to get books for her to read but for her to choose things she likes the look of, for us to read to her or for her to look at! And not just fiction/picture books, also basic non-fiction and kids poetry. Fave book this week www.amazon.co.uk/Penguin-DK-Watch-Me-Grow/dp/0756602637/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1244207368&sr =1-1.
Sorry feels like I'm selling amazon, it's just the fastest way for me to find what I'm on about and post a link! Sorry also for long post!