Please someone help me with an email to school .

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I am fed up of going in and not getting my point across so after yesterday I want to send an email so I can say what I want to say without getting flustered and upset .

Basically my dd who is 9 was called a retard by a y6 for the second time .

My dd has dyspraxia and some LD and this girl seems to enjoy making her feel bad.

I want school to do something and make this girl aware that she can not use these words .She really is trampling over my dd's confidence and it is not fair .

I also want to include some reference to the schools mission statement which wants pupils to

promote high standards of behaviour and moral responsibility

and

ensure that our children leave as self-motivated and confident individuals with the academic skills to continue their learning.

I am basically fed up and angry at my dd's treatment and the fact that she seems to be getting ignored because it is one of the schools golden pupils who is doing the bullying .

Any ideas of who I could contact if nothing is done this time aswell?

Thanks for any help .

Bullying of this sort often comes from children being unable to understand each other.
Im the email, request that your child and the bully are placed together to work on something. This worked for my 9 year old son when he suffered at the hands of bullies due to his speech impediment and awkward behavior.
Sorry I can't help with the email, but I felt I should share this method of approach. My sons school use it all the time and bullying is rarely and issue in the school at all.

God, how dreadfully upsetting for your DD and you.

Children can be so cruel.

Are you the sort of person who could run some sort of awareness thing in school for a day or a week? Y'know kind of offer yourself to help their school as well as your DD.

In any case, although it is the school's responsibility I think you need to keep in mind it is probably not the school's fault that this other child has been so unkinf iyswim.

On that basis you need to make this a 'work with you' email as opposed to an 'i'm complaining' email.

I think if you can word it so you appear to be offering valuable personal perspective on bullying in helping them achieve their school mission statement then you will get a long way in terms of addressing this.

CWM I had to write a letter to school re bullying and I put something like this

Dear Mrs Classteacher

X came home very upset on .... as allegedlly they had been called a retard by y. Whilst I was not present at the time x has described the situation to me and I am very concerned by the description. This is not the first time that an incident of this nature has happened. As you know x has dyspraxia and some learning difficulties and her confidence is quite fragile. These incidents are affecting her ability to attend school and further damaging her confidence. Please could you arrange to meet with me so that we can discuss the strategies that the school is going to implement in line with their mission statement to ensure that these incidences do not occur again.

Best wishes
Mrs X

hope that helps I know how crap bullying can be

I think that you have explained yourself really clearly to us. By changing just a few words you can use the same message to the Head

Dear Headteacher

Please could you help? Yesterday, my dd who is in year 4 was called a 'retard' by someone in y6 for the second time.

As you know, my dd has dyspraxia and some LD and I get the impression that this Y6 seems to enjoy making her feel bad, for whatever reason.

I want school to do something, and make this girl aware that she can not use these words in school. She really is trampling over my dd's confidence and as you know, your policy is to 'ensure that our children leave as self-motivated and confident individuals with the academic skills to continue their learning'. It's a wonderful aim.

Please do let me know if dd or I can help in anyway in resolving this situation.

Many thanks

Thankyou all it has really helped .

The ht son has the same condition as dd and so she is quite vocal on the subject of bullying .

I am just so fed up of it all atm .

MHG I would love to go into school and make children more aware but atm it would not be possible our baby is due in around 4 weeks .

Thankyou all again.

CWWM also copy in the Governers and the local education authority. This will ensure the the HT takes you very seriously indeed.

BT great letter andiem.

Message withdrawn

Mrs Gokwan im sorry but your advice was slightly inaccurate in order to write to the governors and indeed the Lea you first must speak with the class teacher and the head teacher.

Very long and drawn out I agree but thats the way it must be done.

Get in touch with parent partnership - they can give you a lot of help and advice and can attend meetings with you. They will help get your thoughts clear as to exactly what your main concerns are and how to present them so that you point is put across. Each council area has one and often have leaflets in the library. They helped me deal with a tricky nursery.

Oh god yes how did I forget them?>>

Parent partnership were fabulous when I needed support!!!

They will hep you