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Does your dh show an interest in dc schooling ?

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admylin · 11/03/2009 08:22

Just wondering because my h never shows any interest in school and infact he wouldn't be able to tell you what his dc enjoy, which are their favourite subjects, teacher's names etc. I just get on with it and do it all, he never bothers with parent/teacher meetings either and no way would he join any PTA or do anything extra for the school. Of course he wants them to bring good grades home but how they go about obtaining them isn't his problem.

Are there more of his species out there?

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sarah293 · 11/03/2009 08:24

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admylin · 11/03/2009 08:25

Did it bother you Riven?

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Trinityrhino · 11/03/2009 08:26

yes he does
he choose the school as he has lived here all his life and I hadn't

he has come to parents evenings, work permitting

he helps her with her homework

he asks about her fave subject and finds things on the web about topics they are doing

BonsoirAnna · 11/03/2009 08:28

Yes, a great deal. He is class rep for DSS2's class (first year of secondary) and goes to all parent-teacher meetings, follows marks closely, does homework with the children if needed.

However, I am the one who does all the research and thinking about strategy and new directions.

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nickschick · 11/03/2009 08:31

Not a huge amount but he does look at ds3 home ed and is showing a greater interest in ds 1&2s work now they are a bit older.

Generally if he has reason to be at the school its for trouble lol.

nickschick · 11/03/2009 08:32

Hes never been one for assemblies and concerts tho i always used to feel a bit jealous when daddies were there for friday assemblies.

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thirtypence · 11/03/2009 08:37

Dh takes ds every day apart from the day I am working there. He goes to any evening concerts, attends church services and take time off for parent/teacher meetings.

He also came to all my midwife appointments and took time off for the nursery christmas parties.

He hates the social aspect of the school though and if it's parents only and not academic related is perfectly happy to just send me. He is currently trying to get out of the class BBQ, and is praying for rain.

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admylin · 11/03/2009 08:37

Bonsoiranna, that's what got me thinking. Ds is at grammar school and there are loads of dads that turn up and do things to help, set up a yahoo group for the class to send messages easier etc.

Ooops, sorry riven, but it does make you think what is the point in them being around if they don't take part in these sort of things doesn't it? OK, my h goes out and brings in the money to pay the bills but he also goes out to climb his career ladder for his satisfaction, it's not just for money. Seems as if some men think that should be enough.

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PlumpRumpSoggyBaps · 11/03/2009 08:42

My DH takes an interest in ds1's school stuff. He comes to parent-teacher evenings, any meetings at school when ds1 is in trouble (again-sigh) and has come to assemblies, plays, fetes and so on when ds1 was in junior school. He also enquires closely into ds1's homework schedule and helps him with homework on occasion.

And he is ds1's stepfather.

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thirtypence · 11/03/2009 08:45

At swimming champs today I would say that it was 60% women and 40% men.

I do leave some of the homework for ds to do with dh - usually the reading.

BonsoirAnna · 11/03/2009 08:48

admylin - I must admit that my DP has got a hell of a lot more involved since we have been together - he used not to have much judgement about school and took the fact that the boys were at/near the top of the class in all subjects as an indication that there was nothing to do or worry about .

But I have shaken him up a bit and now (since he is very competitive at heart) he wants to be fully informed about what is going on at school. The boys also do better and better because of his involvement.

nickschick · 11/03/2009 08:48

Ooops, sorry riven, but it does make you think what is the point in them being around if they don't take part in these sort of things doesn't it? OK, my h goes out and brings in the money to pay the bills but he also goes out to climb his career ladder for his satisfaction, it's not just for money. Seems as if some men think that should be enough.

I think my dh is very similar to Rivens but in their defence perhaps it just doesnt come that easily to them....i know dh as a 6'2 ex para wasnt entirely settled in his own education and finds going into school awkward - the ssemblies and stuff his parents didnt do and as Ive worked in schools I think he feels more at ease with me going - hes a very hands on daddy in some aspects (he was the one who rang the lea up with regards to H.E) in others he has a wall.

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duchesse · 11/03/2009 09:02

Riven, is your little one on the mend?

sorry for gatecrash

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admylin · 11/03/2009 09:12

Well I love in hope that my h might start to show more of an interest when they get older then.

I hate maths so on the rare occasion that I've asked him to explain something to the dc he always goes too far and forgets that they have to learn the basics first. So doing the first few adding up fractions he started multiplying and x, y and zedding them too!

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admylin · 11/03/2009 09:13

Oops. live not love [shame]

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thirdname · 11/03/2009 14:07

no, also not very involved with their hobbies/sports etc,few occasions he has to take them somewhere it's with great dislike.
But then I'm used to it from my dad, who only was interested in himself.

Hulababy · 11/03/2009 22:29

Yes - DH is very interested in DD's schooling. He was involved as much as me in choosing her school, goig to the assessment day, going to the open dayys, etc.

He does every morning drop off now so he sees DD's teacher pretty much every day and chats with her, even if just to say hello. He has to be the one who takes notice of messages in the cloakrooma rea. He is the one who hands in letters, takes in PE kit, etc.

He also attends parent's evenings and open days, and will come to as many assemblies and shows as he possibly can.

I am the one who does the day to day homework, etc. (as I am hope earliest) but he always has a look at what she has done - if DD is showing - and tlalks to her about her day. She will read to DH as much as she oes to me too.

twinsetandpearls · 11/03/2009 22:32

Yes very interested, takes her and picks her up every day, chats with teacher most days. He is at home so probably knows more than me. He also volunteers in school. I tend to do homework as I am the "strict" one.

thirtypence · 12/03/2009 04:16

I volunteered to manage the football team. I am planning to do the emailing, but sending dh to do the manly stuff like keeping score.

mankyscotslass · 12/03/2009 10:41

DH does all the maths homework, hears some reading and helps with projects.

He will attend assemblies with me if he can. but his work are not that flexible about it.

He attends parents evenings too, and has taken a half day off to attend the next one as we now have 2 children in school.