Nasty teacher at DD's Primary school...

[Kally]

To cut it short, a male teacher at my DD (she's 10.5) school is continually upsetting her. To the point of tears.
I spoke with her class teacher just before half term and pointed this out and said I would be monitoring it to make sure it's not just a sequence of events.
He dishes out his authority in a very scary way, lots of other children are afraid of him (he's the scary teacher at school) and DDs teacher even said he's very set in his ways and is one of those diciplinarian types. (He's not old or anything, just a toughie). She has been keeping an eye on it and advised me to go thru the Head and point it all out. (me thinks she feels it also needs to be sorted)...
The incidents that DD have spoken of are nothing to do with being rude or naughty but this teacher is being so 'un-role model' type. She said she tried to make amends with him and one morning went in and saw him standing there and offered a cheery goodmorning and he said 'Can't you see I am talking?' that set her confidence off first thing in the morning. there have been other 'can't put your finger on it' types of things that as an adult he is able to manipulate and knock her about mentally...
I have asked the Headmistress for an appointment to sort this ar$ehole out... I am getting madder and madder as DD is a bright and freindly kid and I think she just gets up his nose.
Has anyone one else had a similar situation and what did you do about it.

That's awful, your poor daughter. I'd definatly have a very strong word with the head. Document all the insidents, times dates etc.
Ask the other parents if they've had simillar experiences with this teacher. He needs to be sorted. I didn't know teachers like him still existed.

We went through this with DD at primary school, teacher concerned was female. Sadly we didn't know the best route of action and pulled DD out of the school. wish had complained now, teacher is still doing it apparently with other children. makes me so sad.

Good luck

Apparently route you should take is headteacher, board of governors and then the LEA.

I have arranged a meeting with the Head teacher for next week. Her class teaher said she would be in the discussion and she's the one who is arranging it. This has to stop. I am fuming about it and hope by Monday I will have calmed down abit. The Head teacher is out til Monday (so he's lucky)....

What about catching him off guard, introducing yourself firmly and asking him why he's doing this?

Had this in primary recently. Stated concerns (with details and dates)to the head and was told she was going through a hard time. The teacher had been moved to the school after redundancy at another. Plenty of the parents complained and she did modify her practice. She simply has an unpleasant personality. Almost pulled DD out but knew there were two excellent teachers coming up. The class had a pleasant teaching assistant who took the edge off and we had an informal rota of parent helpers...so there was someone in there to dilute her impact. Felt very about it all. Had to bribe DD to go to school on at least two occassions...horrible. Am not sure I did the right thing staying but am in an area with very limited choice and it's the school at the heart of our community. Made sure DD knew what we thought but a teacher is such a powerful figure. I think MML is right, it would help to apporach it en masse.