Is this the downside of having a very well behaved boy at school?

[MamaG]

Not my son but one of his friends.

Absolutely lovely young boy (age 4, reception) and always well behaved. Got star of the week first week () etc.

When he came out of school one day, teacher said to his Mum "we've had words today" rather sternly. She then said "after being told that only one boy is ot go to the toilet at once, he was in there with three others at playtime"

Mum told him off (but gently, she's lovely too) and my DS said "oh yes it was A B and C as well". Now A B and C are normal rough and tumble boys (like my own ds!) and they'd left the classroom minutes before the boy in question and the teacher hadn't said a WORD to their parents. All parents have to meet their DC at the door, where teacher was standing.

I thought it was really unfair that the teacher had embarrassed him. Surely its not a big deal - I thought something as minor as that would be dealt with at school and not have to tell Mum!

None of my business, but since when has that stopped us posting before?!

Sometimes, when you've got one litttle darling in a class full of little buggers, you can go abit overboard because you don't want the good behaviour to slide.

I did wonder that. There are 19 boys in the class and 9 girls, so I wondered if she was trying to nip any bad behaviour in the bud. I'd have been annoyed though, if I was his mum TBH

It seems to me that teachers and carers have to tell parents every flipping thing nowadays. I wish they'd get on with disciplining the kids when they are in their care and only bother the parents if it's systematic unacceptable behaviour. I've said to my childminder that I expect her to deal with bad behaviour but she always says we need to work in partnership (which I agree with if it's something that needs a plan of action but nomally it's just normal 6 year old behaviour and my son needs telling off there and then and not telling off again hours later when I see him).

After all, I don't go to the school or childminder and say I'm disappointed with my son's behaviour - even if I think it's something he's picked up at the school or at her house!

I just thought it was that she only mentioned it to the "good" boy's mum.

Daft imo