DD is 15, (late summer) and really lovely girl. She is gifted academically, predicted 8s and 9s and a 7. I’ve posted about her before but NC
However her teachers think she doesn’t seem to put much effort in, misses prep even though I regularly ask if she’s done them and remind her to do them ( I am now checking the actual finished work). In class she doesn’t engage much, doesn’t ask for help but scores highly in tests and exams so understands what she’s taught easily.
They are all confident she’s got the ability to get all 9s if she would put the effort in. Another common theme they mention is lack of organisation, which we see a lot at home. Her room is always messy ( i’ve heavily reduced her things so a bit better) and she’s always forgetting this or that, forgets what she was meant to be doing but I don’t want to just say ADHD if that’s not what it is.
What is the best way to motivate her? We’ve always encouraged her to develop a love for learning and she is genuinely curious about the world as a whole. She was always an avid reader until recently.
Of course I don’t want to push her to a point where she gets anxious or stressed but I would like her to push herself because it will help her in future.
I’ve asked her if she thinks she’s pushing herself or what she thinks might motivate her but she doesn’t answer.
I offered her money in yr9 end of year exams for effort and she got the equivalent 9s but she wasn’t bothered by it last year.
I found academics really easy and didn’t build skills for learning and so didn’t do as well at university as I could have done. I don’t want the same for her.