I have posted on DS1 all through the years due to really the same reasons. He is 9 and was always unhappy in his infant/junior school so we made the decision last year to change to independant whereby he would get more help with his studies. At first he was happy making friends but as time has gone on he is once again the child who others are horrible to. He is an extremely non agressive child and will avoid any type of confrontation. The problem is he walks around with his head down, shuffling along and talking quietly to his peers. I have tried to talk to him about how the way we carry ourselves can have a big impact on how others perceive us and also that even if he feels that he has no confidence through pretending he has it will come. He will not go to any kind of activity and avoids any social interaction with others. We started karate 18 months ago with a view to help him with his confidence and although he enjoys it it has not helped. I am at my wits end. Had to go into school blazing last week as some child had stabbed him in the hand with a pencil. He said to me this morning that everyone hates him and basically seems very depressed. I don't want to keep changing schools as I truly believe that until he can become more assertive with others the problem will just follow him. I have tried all the doing things he is good at but he seems to turn away at everything I try to do. He loves football but unfortunately is not selected for the team which batters his confidence even more. In fact he never gets selected for anything and I actually feel really depressed for him as can't seem to help. His brother is the opposite. Any suggestions/experiences would be great to hear.
Thanks for listeningXX