DD's first school trip - im nervous

[ThePeachFawn]

Context:

Me and lovely DH married at early by choice 18 after being close childhood friends since primary, we now have DD (4).

It's her first school trip and for the full day next Monday, I'm really nervous bc parents can't go and it's 1h drive away from school. The school didn't really give a choice for child not to go, they said "we are going next Monday for the full day" and just sent letters out with the times, not even asking for permission.

Ik there'll be mixed opinions on allowing kids to go but me and DH personally would've waited until yr 1 or 2, since knowing my kid - she's not calm when travelling for hrs on long journeys and in unfamiliar places without me or DH, but we weren't given a choice.

I'm just nervous for it all knowing it'll be tough for her, she frequently gets picked on by teachers for being slow in speech and needs extra hand with things. Me as a mother have mixed feelings about sending her with them far away for the full day.

Would appreciate any advice...
Thanks..

What did the teacher actually say? Did she use the word lazy or slower, they are very different. Assuming she said slower you need to ask for a meeting with her teacher to discuss what you can do to support her learning and get a date set to review before the end of the school year, if she’s still behind you need to ask to discuss your DDs progress or lack of with her teacher and the senco. Is there someone who can support you? It sounds like you are very anxious and would benefit from support. Please let your dd go, she will be fine

Whether your child is progressing at school and whether the teacher called her 'lazy' or 'picks on her' is an entirely separate issue to whether she should go on a school trip. I'm assuming you have talked with the teacher about what you can do at home to help your child learn?

It's still not clear what you're afraid of in relation to the school trip?

I can't help feeling that your attitude may be the issue here -- you seem to feel the school and the teachers are hostile authority figures, with all that emphasis on 'being given no choice' about the trip, and 'picking on' your child.

Wouldn't another parent possibly see the teacher's concerns as a good opportunity to discuss any issues there are and how you can support her learning at home, and the trip as an exciting little opportunity for your child to have fun with her friends?

You went on school trips I’m sure? And it was fine? You probably don’t remember them now.

I wouldn’t have given this a second thought so we must be quite different, but you shouldn’t let your own worries stop your kid doing something perfectly normal.