Um hi?

[Notlistenedtoparent]

What do you do when the headteacher is bullying you lying and you're not allowed to call them out and when you do call them out for lying they say the words that you are unpredictable and abnormal because nobody is listening to me and I don't actually know what to do anymore and I'm unable to move schools believe me I could if I would.
Not sure what a thread is but I'm guessing it's a post, never used something like this before but not really sure what to do anymore so it would be really nice to get some other parents opinions and I believe I'm the only one that's getting penalized for not agreeing with their opinions and calling the school and head teacher out for disrespecting me my child and obviously the lies after lies.

How are they bullying you and what are the lies being told about your child?

If you can, change the school. Some people call it the cowards way out. But life is to short to expose your own child (ren) to these type of behaviour. Especially since you already gave the school a chance. My parents moved around lots and the schools were vastly different. Some excellent and some that I had no hope for.

With people who tell lies a lot, it is always a good idea to get things in writing and ask for a summary/ minutes of meetings. This way you can remind them of said point or get an explanation on why a certain point that they agreed on, has not been addressed. Please be open that your own child(ren) has not cooperated with them over it. For example, ds2 has ear defender's but he hardly wears them. School can't force him, but they made it available for him. He has started to wear them more often now, because a different child has it. What we tried next was the senco allowing him to go to ks2 library during lunch and break time, if/ when he gets overwhelmed. As it had less noise there.

Getting things in writing is also good, in case somethings gets misunderstood. I always ask for plans in writing so I understand the plan better and remind myself off the actual arrangements.

Use neutral language, focus on the main points that you want addressing. In an inquisitive way, instead of attacking them. They may tell you we tried to do x, y and z. If you feel they need to try y again. Ask them to revisit it again.

Can you give a bit more detail @Notlistenedtoparent (not anything that locates you or your DC obvs) – what kinds of lies? What has happened to yoru child or what are they said to have done?

I agree with a PP it’s a good idea to get things in writing; write down what is said at any meeting (at the time I mean) so that you are clear on what you were told.

Try to send messages via email and keep the tone neutral and calm.

I don't know if my message will like reply to everybody like I said I've never done anything that's before the reason I can't change school is because of my child's preschool they got social services involved some of it was granted there is issues which I'm working on but the preschool was saying quite a lot of lies about food and me choosing yellow door which if you know what that is then you know it's a very serious thing you can't miss any appointments instead of me waiting around for the council to sort my heating out because my heating wasn't working but I was keeping my child warm. And now the new school is listening to the preschool's rhetoric even though there's proof of them lying and the school is saying that I lost my voice so it sounded like it was scripted which is really weird they said that the headteacher the head teacher several of this the head teachers said that basically my behavior was abnormal and predictable just because I don't agree with her opinions and calling her out on her lies in regards to things that she has done said she grabbed my child's wrist I saw her do it and before that she told me she done that and she used a word reasonable force which I've never heard of until I heard her say those words to me and then when I written email to our explaining that I was concerned and if you have to do that then let me know when she said I never said that we never used that here I don't know where you heard that from and that's the only time I've ever heard that word I didn't even know about that terminology beforehand.
When I saw it in person because I had to pick up my child she lied and said that didn't happen she was holding my child's hand which I know is a lie and my child has reiterated the fact that they doesn't like the teacher because she lied about holding their wrist, and the scared of the headteacher.
And I got told that apparently my behaviors and is unpredictable and she needs the teachers and staff to be focused on other children rather than focusing on me and I just sat there and disbelief because my behavior is not unpredictable just because I do not agree with what they are saying and me telling them when they have lied is not unpredictable behaviour and when I brought it up to them they are not concerned about my concerns they do not listen to me,and she said these exact words just because I didn't agree with what she said because I said about going to trips with my child because I don't feel comfortable because I don't trust them but they won't listen to my opinion they won't listen to facts my concerns they just are very belittling and demeaning the head teacher used a very disrespectful terminology towards my child I called it out on it as I meant to because it was very disrespectful she once again lied, and said she never said that when she did and then when I brought it up they used the word disrespectfully in a mocking manner and I was like you can use a different terminology your adults. So hopefully that gives you some details I was honestly not expecting any replies like I said I don't know how this platform or whatever it's classed as, so I was ready hoping I could get some other parents' opinions on this and what I should do because over extremely uncomfortable my child has told me that they are scared of the headteacher but nobody is listening to me so I'm not ready sure what to do anymore and I hope this gives you enough perspective.

Are social services still involved?