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Issues in reception

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Kimmanx · 09/11/2025 22:39

My son started reception this year. He had already been at the school nursery for a year. He is happy, seems to have friends and is doing well.

Some of the parents at the school give me some concerns. Lots of swearing at the school gates and a general roughness. I am from a rough part of where I live, but have worked very hard to try and build a better life. The school seems supportive but I have concerns about my sons peers.

There is currently a boy in his class who is very disruptive. Wiping bogeys on kids, spitting at them and has told my son that his dad is going to come to our house with a hammer to smash it up. He is 4. I know kids say ridiculous things at that age but im just concerned about what influence peers will have on my son if this sort of thing is common. I have spoken to the school about it and they have said they are aware there are some issues with said child.

There is another school nearby that seems to have really nice polite and chatty parents, I know many from playgroups. I sometimes think maybe I should consider moving my son there? But he seems very happy and content and I am concerned it would be a move for my benefit more than his.... but then aren't kids a product of their environment?

Any thoughts really gladly appreciated
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partytimed · 09/11/2025 22:41

I think it sounds like the other school would benefit him. Children do learn a lot from their peers and you wouldn’t want him copying bad behaviour. Can you visit the other school and get a real insight into the demographic? It’s better to move him now if you can rather than wait.

Bluevelvetsofa · 10/11/2025 08:56

Were the same parents and children at the nursery?

If there is a space in Reception at the other school and you would feel more comfortable with him there, then move him. It’s a fact of life though, that there are going to be parents and children in most schools that you wouldn’t get on with.

Kimmanx · 11/11/2025 20:15

Thank you for your replies. Hes my first so its all new to me. The school is lovely and small hence why we stuck with it as our second choice. ( Didn't get our first) the year six kids don't seem to be trouble really.

A lot of the kids in reception play roblox and suff and my son feels a little left out as he doesn't. Am I being judgmental? Its just hes only 4 and hes got plenty of time for gaming in the coming years.

Theres a kid in his class who has been a bit troublesome and he said tomy son he was going to get his dad to take a hammer to our house... I mean I know kids say crazy things but that didn't fill me with confidence. Ive spoken to the school about it.

Im feeling overwhelmed by it all. I just feel a little sad maybe that it seems like I've not connected with any of the parents... but maybe that says more about me? But I also worry about his relationships with peers. The other school which could be an option seems to have nice families but its not performing as well academically...

Am I overthinking this

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