Hi,
My 10yo DD is really struggling at school with reading and writing.
I first noticed it in year 2 and have spoken to all her teachers since then about the possibility of her being dyslexic. They’ve all said she isnt.
She was graded as not being where she needs to be for Reading/Writing and maths in year 2 & 3. I got her a tutor just over a year ago and she’s not only caught up with maths, she’s now doing year 6 work. Her end of year 4 report showed her as ok for maths and reading, but behind with writing.
She was finally signed off as a free reader towards the end of last year, but she struggles massively. She mixes words up, skips them, adds words and spends a lot of time de-coding bigger words. I don’t think she’s absorbing what she’s reading because she’s spending so long just trying to read the sentences.
She asked her current year 5 teacher to put her down a level in comprehension as she was only scoring 50-60% in tests, which her teacher has agreed to do. She says that she feels embarrassed because aside from a few kids with obvious/severe needs, everyone in her class is doing the harder work.
At home, she has meltdowns with her homework and finds it overwhelming. I’ve explained this to her previous teachers as she’s clearly masking this when at school.
She is generally a worrier and can be very anxious. She’s super hard on herself when she can’t understand the work and can’t cope with not getting things 100% correct.
Day to day she is very well behaved, polite and kind. She’s super creative and loves arts and crafts. Her teachers say the most lovely things about her behaviour, manners and effort in parent consultations so I know she is absolutely trying her best.
I can’t understand why the teachers keep dismissing any kind of learning disability when she’s clearly struggling so much. I feel fobbed off and am at the point now where I don’t feel I can let it go on anymore.
Has anyone been in a similar situation where a private diagnosis has uncovered a learning disability missed by school?