Please read this thread for my background (filter by OP posts) https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5392561-grandson-living-with-me-and-im-struggling?page=1
My grandson is 16, he's 17 at the end of the month and lives with my full time, my son lives elsewhere and has autism and his own mental health issues. He may be moving in due to being evicted. Mum not in the picture, social services deemed he was unsafe living with her. I suspect he's autistic but he won't talk about it, says nothings wrong with him etc. I also worry for his mental health he threatens suicide usually to get his own way (money from his dad) but he does self harm. He refused school etc. Again this will be detailed in the thread I've linked.
I tried to get him to open days at the college multiple times but he always refused. I was advised to take him today and talk to them about a course I think is suitable (I also posted this in the linked thread). Anyway, hes totally nocturnal. Yesterday morning he agreed to go today with a “whatever” but then he went out, smoked weed and went to sleep in the afternoon because he hadn't yet slept. I went into him this morning and he was awake on his PC but said he couldn't go, he felt really sick. It turns out he'd eaten a whole trifle when he woke up, he said he ripped the whole lid off of it so he had to force himself to eat it all or it’d have been wasted. He's been asleep since this afternoon again. Enrollment for 16-18 is also tomorrow so we can try again but what happens if he doesn't go? I already have other worries about the self harm, his sleep, his eating etc. I don't know what to do I feel in failing both him and my son as my son is now suicidal about the eviction
Sorry this doesn't make much sense, I'm rush typing and ill reply to any questions tomorrow. Any advice will be appreciated. Please don't suggest social services though as he won't engage and they won't do much at his age.