me and my family moved house and decided to move children’s schools to make it easier, my eldest didn’t like the thought of this initially due to leaving old friends but settled into the new school great and has made friends. My 5 yo daughter has came on brilliantly recently and I found it took her a little longer to come out of her shell and actually make real close friends- she has gotten really attached to someone now and they are besties.
they have been their for just over a year.
however we had to move again due to a flood and we are back in our original town which is great because we are near family and have just been carrying on with the school runs, it’s been fine even though it’s about a 20 min drive in the morning and a 30 min drive at rush hour at the end of the day - but they have been happy and in a good little routine.
we now want to stay in our current town and was just gonna carry on with our routine but a few months back I applied to see if there where any spaces back at their old school as my mind did think maybe long term they should be closer as it might make things a bit easier - and they said they only had the one space so I thought well there’s my answer just leave them where they are.
but they rang me last week and stated they will have the 2 of them back and they have made a space for both of them - this has brought on so much anxiety and stress with making the right decision. My 5 yo daughter does not want to move as she is happy where she is and my son is happy of the thought of seeing his old friends but what if they have moved on now and they won’t bond or be as close as they where- it also seems like in his new school there is a bigger group of friends that all mix it up and play with each other where as in his old school it was more like a set 2/3 of them bonding. - I also think he doesn’t realise that he will most likely miss his new friends in this school if he moves back.
also as selfish as it sounds I as a mother feel more comfortable at this school- I felt anxious and awkward at the old one because I felt like I knew a lot of the other parents and they knew me and some probably didn’t like me- at the new school it’s kind of like private life happy life, keep my self to myself, drop the kids off and go which is nice (obviously I say hi to my children’s friends parents and let my kids go to party’s / play dates etc) but it’s not so severe or the feel of anyone knowing too much about my life and causing anxiety - they seem friendlier too if that makes sense. Some parents are just clicky and in their groups - this school has its little groups also but I don’t know, it just doesn’t seem so weird.
I said yes to moving them back but there is just something in my stomach telling me it’s a bad idea. (Also I know my feelings are irrelevant when it comes to my children’s education and wellbeing, weather I get anxiety on the school run or not etc)
I have a new baby also and I do think about when she starts school - If I kept them in the current school I probably wouldn’t put her in the nursery but wait until she’s full time and find something local for her to attend up until then as the extra 20 min commute would be annoying just for her to go to nursery for a couple of hours but I definitely would want to get her use to that environment so would find something close for her until the time comes for full time.