School skirts

[ForBlueFox]

Hello my daughter who is currently in year 10 has been bullied for months over the length of her skirt hers is just below her knees where most of the girls are quite a bit above their knees we have spoken to the teachers who are no help and say just roll it up as it does look a bit ridiculous but she feels comfortable with it like that
we have moved schools already twice and the same issue is happening in both schools plus homeschooling is not an option
she posted a tik tok yesterday in her uniform and there was so many mean comments about her skirt

What is your daughter's social circle at school like? Does she have anyone who is "on her side"?

I think you need to stop focusing on skirt length. Bullying is never about a single issue like skirt length. A bully has chosen your daughter to target.

So she’s in her 3rd secondary school now?

Is there a reason her skirt is below her knees? Why has she been to so many schools?

The teachers tell her to roll her skirt up?

I would keep her off TikTok if she is being given a hard time. Especially wearing school uniform. I’m not advising to do things to follow the crowd but might she be better just rolling it up above her knee a little? She shouldn’t have to but it seems to have become an issue.

You have changed schools because of her skirt length? She’s maybe not cut out to be a fashionista. Clearly she needs to be one of the pack to fit in. School are advising that. Seems odd to go to war about a skirt.

If people are bullying her over a skirt tell her to say phrases to the bullies like "Why are you so obsessed with my skirt? What affect does it have to you?"
or
"Why are you still going on about my skirt? Haven't you anything more interesting to be thinking about"
or
"I'm happy with my skirt this way thanks"
or....
She should just ignore them. If they say something about the skirt - she should just not respond.

Why did she post on tiktok?
What was the point of that?

Has your daughter moved schools twice because of issues with how she wears her skirt? That’s the impression you’re giving from your OP

If she’s year 10 now, you really can’t move her, more than half way through GCSE.

There must have been more issues than the length of her skirt, if she’s moved schools twice before, surely.

She should avoid TikTok and ignore the girls.

@ThesebeautifulthingsthatIvegot she has 2 really good friends outside of school who have been there for here throughout all of it
@Stripeyanddotty yes that’s right
@TheCurious0range thats the way she likes and feels comfortable with it she has been to so many as they all have been so toxic
@Theunamedcat yes they have and even one of the teachers laughed and said it’s even longer then my dress

She needs to decide either to fit in by wearing her uniform in the same way as others, or to own it and ignore people who disagree with her.

It feels as if you are both turning a fashion choice into a battle. There is no way that three separate schools have bullies obsessed with the length of skirts.

You can do one thing for your child who's being bullied to the extent she's felt it necessary to move schools twice already, and that is to get her off Tik Tok. Stop focusing on the skirt length, that's not what's going on here.

How do you feel social media is helping her manage the toxic bullying? It's just a vehicle for it that amplifies it.

Why were they all toxic school? What do you mean by toxic?
Why have you allowed tik tok? It's horrific for mental health.
You and her need to learn resilience, lots of people don't fit in but equally don't go around changing schools constantly if they don't.
You simply can't move schools again so she needs to learn to deal with it however there's no way this is about skirt length.

In DD’s school, plenty of the girls now wear trousers instead. Could that be an option for her?

You should not be encouraging your DD to post videos of herself online, and most certainly not in her school uniform!

@Hodgemollar her account is private and you can’t see what school she goes to on the vid anyway

Why are you posting photos of her here with other children on this thread? It’s not even relevant.
It’s really weird behaviour, if I was a parent of one of those other children I would be really concerned about you. It’s very easy to remove a splodge from a photo.
Your online safety is completely lacking.

Christ send her in an appropriate skirt. You can really tell me you moved schools not once but twice because of bullying over a skirt and don’t think you need to change the skirt? Such an easy win

Her skirt looks completely fine.

The other girls skirts look too short in my opinion.

It was the same when i was in school. We were constantly pressured by other girls to make our skirts shorter and shorter.

First of all, remove her off social media, or at least get her to delete all the nasty kids. No point in having 100 “friends” if they bully you.

Second, if it’s her choice and she’s happy and comfortable with it, have her own it. “Yeah I know, my knees get cold!” , “I’m practicing for my future as a nun” , “ better to run up/down the stairs with”. They’ll get bored if they see she’s unbothered and doesn’t give a crap about it.

Thirdly, email her form tutor with all the incidents you have , any proof, clear and factual , report it as bullying(if that’s what it is) and refer them to their own bullying policy as to what you expect to happen next and how will they keep your daughter safe.

Try trousers?

How does the bullying manifest -side eyes, snide comments, social exclusion and freezing out, online harassment or direct attacks on her person?

Are you in a very homogenous catchment? I'm trying to imagine a school where skirt length would be such an issue and where divergence from a 'norm' would be so obvious as to set a child apart; where I live, schools are attended by young people from all over the world who bring their own twist to uniform-wearing, including wearing full length, maxi-style skirts as well as the more bog-standard cheek-skimming lengths. A skirt like your daughter's wouldn't be noticed, let alone unleash the kind of ostacation your DD seems to have encountered.

Jesus Christ please delete the photo of kids in school uniform 🙄
Have you zero online safety awareness?

This is odd