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Moving schools end of Y3

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Alifemoreordinary123 · 02/07/2025 00:06

Would love your experiences - good, bad, neutral.

We’re considering a move from DC2 current school - great community, lots of fun, nice set of kids and friends. But, school is long term RI (trying to recover), high needs class that has a reputation, some poor behaviour, lots of (usually vulnerable) children in and out (usually 2 each school year), variable teaching and a significant dip in achievement this year (which we’ve recovered with effort at home). Child is bright, quiet and sensitive, potentially ND. They aren’t happy at school (noise, disruption, friend dynamics and politics, lack of creative time etc) - values their friends but doesn’t have a special friend and moans about school daily (doesn’t want to go in to class etc). They find the chatty class tricky and don’t always feel listened to and loved by their peers.

Move would be to a strict school, highly academic and tight on behaviour - no chatty class or behaviour issues, a lovely class by all accounts but where they only know of one chid. School is a strong ‘good’ and in top 100 or so nationally. Minimal moves in and out of classes each academic year. Their sibling will be attending this school from Sept. We get great reports from most families we know with children there.

My fear is that they find relationships hard to build and will constantly regret leaving their friends (we are also friends with their friends parents). Also that their dislike of school is part of their ND and that they’ll continue with this feeling despite the move. We just wonder if a reset would help but feel horribly torn.

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PersephoneParlormaid · 02/07/2025 06:43

I don’t think you can win either way, so make a choice that is easiest for you with pick ups/drop offs.

Silvertulips · 02/07/2025 06:48

I moved DD and she thrived.

I would ask for a taster day or morning, or several this side of the summer holidays to give her a preview/ she may surprise you

Br1ll1ant · 02/07/2025 07:14

Move them. I would have thought they won’t even remember the old school in six months. One school run in September? No question. I wouldn’t necessarily move a happy child, but yours said telling you they aren’t. Give them a chance to start again elsewhere, especially somewhere that sound ms more suited to their needs.

MarchingFrogs · 02/07/2025 11:48

Is thete actually a space in your DC's year group (have you applied already and been offered?).

dairydebris · 02/07/2025 11:49

On the info you've given, move.

Alifemoreordinary123 · 02/07/2025 16:37

Thank you - very helpful. There is a space and we have been offered. We’re looking around on Friday with her. She’s asked to call childline as an independent adult to talk it through with - I was aghast at first, but actually it’s probably not a bad idea. I associate childline with children experiencing abuse or distress, but I think it’s promoted to them as a listening adult to talk anything through with 🤷‍♀️

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Lazytiger · 02/07/2025 18:26

Alifemoreordinary123 · 02/07/2025 16:37

Thank you - very helpful. There is a space and we have been offered. We’re looking around on Friday with her. She’s asked to call childline as an independent adult to talk it through with - I was aghast at first, but actually it’s probably not a bad idea. I associate childline with children experiencing abuse or distress, but I think it’s promoted to them as a listening adult to talk anything through with 🤷‍♀️

I did an audible intake of breath when I read 'She's asked to call childline' 😆😆😆
Didn't we all threaten our parents with this when we couldn't stay up late in rte 80/90s

It's good to have a heads up in case mine ever say it!

Alifemoreordinary123 · 02/07/2025 18:42

😆 @Lazytiger right!!!!! I was 😳 but gently explored it with her, and then looked on their website, and they are definitely promoting themselves as a space for children to talk about anything with an independent adult. I think it’s really positive that she recognises the need to talk it through with someone, but it definitely sits uncomfortably with my 1990s self.

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Silvertulips · 02/07/2025 23:54

Mine threatened childline when they didn’t get their own way- I often said a parent line would be a better alternative.

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