Demands at school v home

[Koalatom1]

I have a y1 son who is fine at home with the daily grinds of life. He does swimming lessons & will go back to cricket club soon. He’s had wobbles but we’ve overcome them. I do see an angry side come out and we’ve worked on that so he can recognise when he does get angry & he’s aware of how to temper it down. It’s not on small things, it’ll be when he really doesn’t want to do something.

what I’m struggling with is the different profile at school. He seems hard work and they need to adopt lots of different tools to get core tasks done. He will refuse to do work/has to be on his terms. When we do additional work at home he seems on it so we know it’s going in but he’s not demonstrating it. Apart from writing which he struggles with both at home and school.

spoken to him, and said take part in things at school & do as you’re told & show perseverance & try to encourage him. But it’s still happening. He doesn’t get upset with these convos and replies back yes I will etc.

i need some help with how to talk to him/work with him at home on this. It sounds like he doesn’t like the demands of school being put on him, but doesn’t sound extreme enough to be PDA.

I don’t see other autism/adhd signs, so is it personality? He’s sociable & has friends. I have a diagnosed adhd/asd and this is very different.

itll get harder for him as he goes through school years so I want to help them. Reception was no issue but from the sounds of it everyone agrees it’s low demand.

Both my DS disliked Y1 although they had great teachers who they loved. They stepped them up from free flow play based gradually through the year and they were always extra tired at each step.
Y1 kids are still very young and in many cases they would benefit from a longer period of less formal education.
We did nice early bedtimes, being outside as much as possible and lots of unstructured play at home.

I was going to say the same thing about year one. I think it’s the most difficult year for the change in what happens at school and what is required of the children. There is a lot of independent learning in EYFS and then year one can be a much more traditional/formal environment.

And if he’s struggling academically, for want of a better word, the school may be trying to rectify that while they still have extra adults or time to do so. Then he will be spending more of his day doing things he doesn’t want to do. Vicious circle!

Do everything you can at home to help him with his learning informally. Do plenty of reading, you to him.

So helpful, thank you!! Especially your point about trying to help catch him up & him not wanting to do it.