Am I over reacting?

[Applepoe25]

Hi, i was hoping to share a recent experience to get others views as I still feel frustrated about a situation and think im over reacting.

My child's school had a disco after school to raise money they do this a few times through the year.
They have a deadline tickets need to be ordered and tickets are a few pounds.

My child is in year 1.

I believed I had booked a ticket for the party, before the deadline of the sales id gone on their site booked a ticket and then my screen said thank you for booking, I then never thought another thing about it.

Sent my child to school with party clothes all excited, then I had a call from the school not long after the disco had started to say my child couldnt attend the disco as he didn't have a ticket, the person said parents do this, dont buy a ticket thinking their child would get into the disco, I said I thought i did buy a ticket and asked if she was saying i was a parent who was trying not to pay? I have volunteered my time before to support at previous discos.

The school Sat my child in the classroom where the door leads to the disco room, I looked on my bank on route to the school to pick up my child and noticed the money hadn't been taken out my bank, I was made to feel that I was trying to sneak my child into the disco without paying.

I live a 2 min walk from the school luckily on route I heard someone on the opposite side of the road talking about how sorry they felt for my child not having a ticket, and that their parents hasnt got them a ticket, I turned around and looked across the street to find it was a teaching assistant from my child's class telling someone else.

I felt terrible for my child not being allowed to disco, the school would not let me make payment as the dealine had passed, I couldnt prove that I had booked, although on my Internet bowser history i can see I was on their payment website although cant prove i got to the thank you for your order.

Would you be upset if there was no flexibility in a genuine technical error that you had no idea of?
Would you be upset that a teaching assistant was talking about your child by name in public telling someone else what they believe had happened?

While picking up my childni had said there had been a breach of confidentiality and they want my to put it in an email

This would be the second breach, but i didnt report the first breach, previously my son had been very poorly and in hospital, I then later bumped into my child's old nursery teacher who we had not seen since they went into school and they asked how my child was following being in hospital, I asked how they knew and they named someone from my child's class.

I feel gutted my son missed out and I should of followed up some how first even though I never have before so maybe this is why I feel so frustrated, I dont want to get anyone into trouble so not sure if I should sent the email.

I took a photo of the teaching assistant across the road and she seen my doing so as I was frustrated on route to school.

Any advice, should I just forget about it?

Thank you!

It's no biggie, dc in your child's class will tell all and sundry anyway.

Agree with the above poster, was your job to check that you had the ticket. Although it was a little mean of them to not let her in and let you pay but I guess with fire regs ect they can only have so many in the hall

A shame your wee one missed out, but taking a photograph of TA in street is a bit ott

It's not a data breach a child saying "x in my class is in hospital". Children talk, and pick up that sort of thing. Then they pass it on.

On the disco, yes it is hard, but firstly having done volunteering at that sort of thing you'd be amazed at the number of parents who either "forget" to buy a ticket and expect to just turn up on the day, despite knowing the venue is full, or who claim they "bought a ticket" and it just didn't happen to go through.
Oddly it always seems to happen to the same people who also never volunteer to help

The behaviour that is unacceptable from your op is definitely taking the photo of the TA. Why on earth would that be any help at all?

It’s not a breach of confidentiality telling someone that your ticket sale didn’t go through neither is someone telling someone else you’re in hospital.

Yes, you are completely over reacting.

Of course some families try to just send their dc along to something, working on the principle that "the school will let them stay".
You say yours was a technical error. what do you think other parents trying to sneak their dc in might say ?

I am also impressed by your hearing ability, to hear exactly what two people on the opposite side of a road from yourself were talking about, whilst you are also on your phone checking your banking (and walking along). You must have very good concentration.

Taking a photo of a TA walking home, is just bizarre. I think if you start admitting to the school you did that, you will be perceived quite differently from most parents.

A bit mean of them not to let her attend but I suppose they’re afraid to just let her in case you didn’t want her to go. Particularly when it was just one child.
Having said all that you ranting about breach’s and taking photos of TA’s in a public place makes you sound absolutely nuts.

Yes I think you are overreacting.
Probably just a technical error and your payment did not go through so your DC was not on the list. They probably did not staff it/enough volunteers and these things are checked in advance. Your DC will forget about it.
Personally, I would definitely not make a big fuss, especially if it is just one of those fun events run for the kids and to raise money for the school. You do know schools don’t get enough funding from the Government?
I also would definitely not complain, maybe just mention to the teacher what happened re payment not going through.