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Changes choice after acceptance

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Ksjs3 · 14/03/2025 17:33

Hi all

I accepted a secondary school place for Sept 25 for my youngest at the same school his brother is at in Yr 11.

Long story short, yr 11 son has had long term bullying issue that culminated today in being kicked in the head and back at lunchtime on school premises, despite a meeting I had with the head with assurances TWO days ago about an incident that day. (I have pulled him from school and he will not being going back into the premises).

My youngest has earwigged on the convo and is now anxious hes going to be bullied too (he is autistic , and had already dealt with his own fair share of issues in primary). If I'm honest, I'm not sure I trust the school to keep him safe either at this point.

My question is, now that I've accepted the place, can I recant my acceptance and ask for a different school place?

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TimeForSprings · 14/03/2025 17:45

I think I would keep the place, but ask to go on the waiting lists for any other school you would be happy for him to attend. Just check if there is a limit on how many waiting lists you can be on.

I hope your oldest is ok. That's a horrible thing to experience.

prh47bridge · 14/03/2025 18:39

Rejecting the place you've been offered won't result in the LA finding another place for you, but there is nothing to stop you applying for other schools.

MarchingFrogs · 14/03/2025 18:43

TimeForSprings · 14/03/2025 17:45

I think I would keep the place, but ask to go on the waiting lists for any other school you would be happy for him to attend. Just check if there is a limit on how many waiting lists you can be on.

I hope your oldest is ok. That's a horrible thing to experience.

All of this. Please don't withdraw your acceptance of your younger DS's current place until you know that he has somewhere else to go. If you get applications/ change of preferences sorted quickly, if there are no places available, you should have a formal notification of this within the time for lodging an appeal, or appeals, for a guaranteed hearing befor the end of next term (although where we are, appeals submitted even quite late for main round places tend to be fitted into the 'on time' schedule if at all possible).

(As a side issue: @Ksjs3 I know this may not have been uppermost on your mind, but are you able to make arrangements for your older DS to sit his GCSEs?).

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Ksjs3 · 14/03/2025 19:40

MarchingFrogs · 14/03/2025 18:43

All of this. Please don't withdraw your acceptance of your younger DS's current place until you know that he has somewhere else to go. If you get applications/ change of preferences sorted quickly, if there are no places available, you should have a formal notification of this within the time for lodging an appeal, or appeals, for a guaranteed hearing befor the end of next term (although where we are, appeals submitted even quite late for main round places tend to be fitted into the 'on time' schedule if at all possible).

(As a side issue: @Ksjs3 I know this may not have been uppermost on your mind, but are you able to make arrangements for your older DS to sit his GCSEs?).

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As for my eldest and his gcses, I haven't formally removed him from the school yet. I have a phone meeting Monday with the assistant head and my intention is to request he is given revision materials from home and will sit his gcses as normal (with myself or dad dropping him in/picking him up from the premises for the exams.) Failing that, I have to look into how it can be done without him having to set foot back in the school.x

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Ksjs3 · 14/03/2025 19:41

Thank you for your responses.

I'm very aware I'm in a heightened state of anxiety and anger so I'm grateful to have people being honest and bringing me back down to earth a bit. I'll look at getting him on waiting lists and see how it pans out. Thanks x

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MarchingFrogs · 14/03/2025 19:51

@Ksjs3 I hope it all works out for all of youFlowers

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