Lol. Opportunities to make life changing decisions occur throughout most people’s career. My DH was offered a partnership in the US when DD was 6 and DS was 3. He flew back from the interview to collect the kids from the (state) village infant school/nursery they were in at the time - cricket playing on the green in the sunshine, families paddling in the stream, others already pitched up at the pub watching the game or on picnic blankets… and thought ‘why would I leave this? Why would I take this from my kids?’ A year later at junior school my DDs SEN needs became clear and after 2 years of fighting with the school for assessment and ECHP application support, we defected into (an equally idyllic) private school. He has had life changing opportunities presented to him dozens of times, but not wanting to disrupt our children’s educations and having a sense at the time that it was a privilege to grow up in England, that our high taxes were the price of that privilege - that they helped other families have a better life here, supported a society we were invested in - we remained.
Now we are being told by the very society that we have invested in that we are despicable, that our children’s welfare is of no concern - in fact the opposite - that despite the hundreds of thousands of taxes we’ve happily paid, the sensible financial planning we undertaken to ensure we are not a burden on the state during our lives and can support both our parents and our children in the same way… we should just get over ourselves? Our kids will be in unis next year, so there is absolutely nothing tying us to the UK or to jobs here now. So when the invites to discuss jobs in the US, Geneva and UAE come up (and they all have in the last 6 weeks), yes, my DH is going to go and talk to every company.
It is not that we are all running away in a paddy and sulking because we don’t like the changes the government is making - it is that we are no longer incentivised to remain here. We no longer feel valued or respected in our own country. And we are not alone. You can see that in the alarming move to the right and the increasing popularity of the Reform Party and the hideous Farage. We have an already fractured and divided nation and all the Labour Party has done so far is lob a load of TNT into the cracks and ensure that they become deep, unbridgeable chasms. Not that I’d want to cross those bridges now, as why would I want to engage with people who clearly despise me, my family and what we’ve worked hard to achieve?