My DS is in year 7 and surprised to be in top set, as he's always been distinctly average. Reading and writing took ages, his spelling is atrocious and maths not much better. He doesn't apply himself and never been pushed. He plays up whenever I've tried to do any extra work with him. He's always got by at primary school though, with minimal effort.
I asked the question how they did the assessments for the sets and it was based on Cat scores, apparently he scored really high. He's at a comprehensive.
Have I let my child down by not pushing? Should he be achieving higher than he has been? There are children whom he considered cleverer than him in sets below him.
I'm hoping now that we all know he's bright, it will spur him on to do better. Or he'll be pushed down to middle sets for year 8, which is where we expected!
If you've been a foot off the pedal parent, would it change things if you found out they were in fact bright (just a bit lazy and laid back)?