Awful friendship issue at school

[HatingSchool]

Looking for some advice here as really frustrated

DS Y8 in selective London school , average class student, good behaviour ; since end of last he’s been in constant trouble since starting new friendships

one certain day he got into very serious trouble (his friends egged him on to do something and he nicely did it !)

brand new start this year , had school meeting with Head etc where they clearly said they don’t want to see this behaviour . He started nicely for first few days but going down again. Checking his what’s app and certain friends are swearing constantly , talking about drugs , calling people names. Also misusing phone in school (actually taking pictures of kids in class and sending photos in messages), misbehaving etc

I know he is really really trying but he’s so bloody immature he can’t de associate himself from the situations

I also don’t think it’s fair on him having these certain friends in class next to him as they’re just distracting him he just can’t do anything right even if he wants to

i am meeting Head tomorrow, what can I realistically ask? Could they move him to another class? How can they encourage him to have other friendships ?

So grateful for any help at all x

Yes @WildCherryBlossom he’s been always average (in primary too). Absolutely never top end apart from couple of topics he really focused on (we are very ok with average )

good observation about Y9, really hoping one other school near us take him on (closer and stricter which seems he needs it)

that’s very encouraging , thank you!

I'd recommend Omega 3 supplements . There is a research that they help with kids behaviour.

@dontcryformeargentina thank you! I am giving omega 3 so I guess I ll double up!!

just to update we had the school meeting ; they said they can’t change class but they will definitely sort out seating

I gave them evidence that certain friends are using phone in class, also sent them evidence of what’s app discussion about cocaine plus sexual content (yup it got that bad over last two days and most of them are just 12yo ), and they re taking it seriously

for now they ll make sure he’s attending his lunch time clubs so that new friendships are formed; they ll give me daily report on his behaviour

he still doesn’t have his phone and he won’t get it till I see behaviour changes. I also deleted his what’s app

wanted to say massive THANK YOU for your suggestions and support as I was going nuts (I had people trying to convince this is normal for this age!) !!!!