We had to move our daughter to a small independent private school because she couldn’t cope in her large mainstream despite good academic results.
She was self-harming & took an OD on her way to school. She was in a high state of anxiety & was bullied. School blamed her state of mind on her attitude & the only alternative provision they could offer was not suitable.
We struggled for months to get through CAHMS. We ended up going private to see a psychiatrist. She was diagnosed with social anxiety disorder and is due further assessment for neuro-divergent conditions. Now we are bracing ourselves to start applying for an EHCP.
Are we privileged ? Yes, but it’s really going to stretch us financially - Having to go to private school wasn't on our radar.
Some will say it’s our choice… yes in part, but there was not really any other options for suitable schools (other than maybe online - but again not entirely suitable)
Al I angry? Hell, yes - so many families being let down by both education and health system, stuck in limbo for months if not years… in the same way about the difficulty many families are facing with cost of living crisis.
Will the the VAT imposed on private school help improving comprehensive system?
I don’t think so…
Where are the plans for teacher retention, reform of the secondary system, raising standards, mental health for young people, SEND provision … ? And Is it time to stop having super large high schools?
Because if it is about bringing a few thousands extra teachers, it’s not even touching the surface of the issues facing schools right now & it’s not just all about funding either - some of it is about systemic failure & mindset too…
Parents in the large mainstream school raise concerns with the school for one thing or another on a regular basis … with little results.
We never thought in a million years about having to go through what we did in the last few months.
Private schools are not just for the super rich & not all comprehensive have good SEN provision.
Whilst it’s worth the debate, I hope that those in favour of this policy will appreciate that the picture is more complex that meet the eyes.