do you reward your kids for a good report?

[FluffyMummy123]

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Just read post about not discussing with children. I really don't get that. It goes against everything I've ever thought about education and bringing children up.

I read my kids' reports, and then go over them with them. They then have a repeat performance with DH (after I have coached DH what to say). We don't have too many surprises.

We always had class positions for the exams in our school reports back in the day. At my boys' prep school (where I worked 2 years ago) we still put on class or year position. I think parents want it.

I don't know if we do this at my school yet as I am in my first year and we haven't had school exams yet. In our termly short reports, we give grades in 6 categories, including achievement. Obviously an achievement of A is better than C, so parents can see where their child is roughly relative to the rest of the class.

Even at 5yo qwe discuss DD's report with her and share her teacher's comments about her. I think it is important personally.

Wjhen I wrote reports as a teacher I wrote them with the intention that the pupil would see the contents also.

I let my (aged 7) ds read it, and discuss it with him, and give him praise where due (he usually does well and tries hard, so that is quite often), but he doesn't get any other reward. The main thing I impress on him is that he should work hard, and try to get on with other people.

He seems to be naturally quite bright, but I don't see that should in itself be rewarded - it's how he uses his skills and how he acts towards others that's important.

like Seeker - read it with him, and then associate something we would have got him anyway with it - largely because his good academic performance is taken so much for granted at school that it doesn't often get rewarded, so he needs to know that we appreciate it.

DH and I always discuss reports with our children. We reward them for making an effort.

'Well done' goes a long way in my experience.

yes.

mine gets rewarded for the effort ticks only, I tell her I don't care about the numbers!

I say 'Well done' for the bits that deserve it and then we talk about the 'room for improvement' bits. Wouldn't give anything other than verbal praise though.

Both DSs read their reports if they want to.

only with praise

I reward for pretty much everything .
If they get 10/10 on their maths test (specialy eldest as that is his weakest subject) they get rewarded. If youngest gets 10/10 in his spelling test I reward him. This is usually a couple of pounds. If they are getting the best results they can get in their poorsest subjects then they will be rewarded. I don't care why they are getting the grades and if money is the incentive to do it then so be it. In reports though, if they haven't got the best results but have tried their best and got good commnets, not disruptive children etc, then they get rewarded, again a couple of pounds. If my eldest gets a 4 in his SATS (I'll accept a 3A for Maths as I know thats achievable for him) then he will get to choose cinema or the eqivalent in money for each 4 he gets.

Not really. I'm just happy with them if they do well and ask them whether they're happy with the result. If there's anything that looks a bit worrying then we discuss what's going on and why they think they did how they did.