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group telling off ........

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Angeliz · 19/03/2008 16:28

hi all,
dd1 had a fab assembly this morn.
All parents from her year were invited and they were all amazing. At the end the head said he wanted to see everyone at break.
I quizzed dd1 about it when she got home and it turns out some kids have been putting lots of paper down the loos and blocking them.
All the kids had to sit in the hall through their whole break and get a lecture and a few things were said that didn't sound nice.

I don't want dd to get away with everything but she's very good at school and i know it wasn't her so i'm quite annoyed that after a lovely heartwarming start to the day she gets punished for something she hasn't done........

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posieflump · 19/03/2008 16:30

I guess they don't know who had done it
Normally I would agree it is unfair but when you think about it - loos blocked, loos not working, all kids get sent home, major upheaval for parents etc, I think the end justifies the means this time if it stops it

TurkeyLurkey · 19/03/2008 16:36

I wonder if the school gave the offenders chance to admit it so that everyone else didn't get punished too?...and they were too cowardly so everyone paid the price?

If so then I suppose the teachers have to follow through with some consequences which don't seem too harsh to me.

avenanap · 19/03/2008 16:38

That's life though isn't it? It is unfair and they do learn this at a very early age. It's so sad

wannaBe · 19/03/2008 16:43

If they don't know who it was though then the whole class has to be spoken to.

I remember vividly all being made to sit in the hall/in the dining room (was at boarding school) until the one person that had done wrong admitted to having done it. that's life unfortunately.

meemar · 19/03/2008 16:43

I don't think the punishment was particularly hard. It's really hard for the school if this is a persistent problem and they have no idea who is behind it.

Maybe they just wanted to see if this worked and hopefully it will make the troublemakers think again.

Litchick · 19/03/2008 16:50

School is a group activity and as such children have to take the highs and the lows as a group.
Also the kids who are not guilty will soon stop the offenders the next time they try it.
My friend who is totally against this 'herd mentality' home eds her kids.

MrsWeasley · 19/03/2008 16:52

We found a whole orange down the toilet today at school. Then someone or more than 1 had used the toilet and it had to be cleaned/removed.

Blandmum · 19/03/2008 16:55

I remember all the girls in my primary school being called into the Hall and being told that we were using too much loo paper. I must have been in year 3 at the time.

We were told that 3 sheets was quite enough

Stuck in my mind to this day, in fact.

We all lived through the experience. I expect your dd will too!

ScienceTeacher · 19/03/2008 17:09

As others have said...also, peer pressure can be what it takes to get to the bottom of the problem.

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Angeliz · 19/03/2008 18:34

Thnaks for all your views. Just doesn't sit well with me at all that group thing.
I think she should take responsibility for her own actions but this seems that she's paying for others stupidity.

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ScienceTeacher · 19/03/2008 18:35

It was only a break...

Squirtle · 19/03/2008 18:39

The teachers can't really send out the "good" children and just keep in the "naughty" children.

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Angeliz · 19/03/2008 18:43

Why not squirtle?

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Flight · 19/03/2008 18:43

When it is shiny paper, no amount is enough MB...those were the days!

TheFallenMadonna · 19/03/2008 18:44

Do you think there is a clear cut distinction between 'good' and 'naughty' children?

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Angeliz · 19/03/2008 18:45

If my daughter had deliberately blocked a loo i'd want her told off yes, but i wouldn't expect the rest of the school to be reprimanded for her actions.

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Squirtle · 19/03/2008 18:48

No, I don't and that is why you can't. It has to be everyone together. You can't label children or assume.
I thought I knew who was messing up the toilets in my class. We had the stay in at play chat to the whole class and i said someone could maybe write a letter in the class message box. It turned out to be a totaly different child.

Squirtle · 19/03/2008 18:50

Sorry, no i don't think there is a clear cut distinction between good and naughty. There is not a perfect child in my classroom/school/the world. Whilst you might know your child has not done something teachers can't assume like that.

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Angeliz · 19/03/2008 18:50

But if you knew for sure who it was, you're telling me that the said child wouldn't get told off without involving others?

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TheFallenMadonna · 19/03/2008 18:50

No, I guesses you dodn't I was asking Angeliz, sorry.

TheFallenMadonna · 19/03/2008 18:51

What did I just type?

I guessed you didn't

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Angeliz · 19/03/2008 18:52

No but i think maybe a word with the whole school and then finding out who the culprits are. I don't call children 'naughty' either btw, i'm not labelling anyone, just think that resbonsibility for ones actions should mean just that.

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TheFallenMadonna · 19/03/2008 18:53

I'm assuming the school didn't know for sure who it was. And even if they did, a warning tot he whole school that it wasn't a good thing to do would still be appropriate. Although not the loss of a whole break.

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Angeliz · 19/03/2008 18:54

i don't think there is a clear distinction. I have a very calm dd, a very rebelios(sp?) dd and a little monster (but adorable) ds so i know they all have their own ways.

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Angeliz · 19/03/2008 18:55

Yes thefallen madonna, i agree, a warning not thw whole break!

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