Fed up of nasty kids

2under3inkent · 2023-11-17T10:21:14+00:00

My son is nearly 4 and is a nice, polite, caring boy. His manners are spot on, he will help anyone no matter their age. His nursery have always said how kind he is but he seems like one of the few. The amount of boisterous, rude, arrogant kids from his nursery is ridiculous. The language 3 and 4 year olds are coming out with, the hitting, scratching I just hate it. I honestly fear for my son starting school. I'm not an over protective parent, I am parent that is raising my children to be good kind people. And it seems so many kids are just allowed to get away with whatever they like. You can blame it on age all you like, but I don't think majority is "age" related.

fiorentina · 17/11/2023 10:25

Some children are more high energy or boisterous than others, but that doesn’t mean they are rude or unkind, they are just more into energetic play and are often more sporty when older.
If other children are actually being unkind or violent though then nursery should be dealing with it alongside their parents?
Hopefully your son will find similar friends at school.

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2under3inkent · 17/11/2023 10:33

fiorentina · 17/11/2023 10:25

Some children are more high energy or boisterous than others, but that doesn’t mean they are rude or unkind, they are just more into energetic play and are often more sporty when older.
If other children are actually being unkind or violent though then nursery should be dealing with it alongside their parents?
Hopefully your son will find similar friends at school.

I'm not talking a bit of rough play, I'm talking purposely shoving into a wall, purposely scratching others randomly. The nursery just use a time out method which does sod all.

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fiorentina · 17/11/2023 10:49

I would suggest nursery needs to deal with it more effectively if your child is getting hurt and you need to speak with them.
You would be surprised how differently children do act when not around their parents as well, not making excuses for them, but they may not be this way at home.

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2under3inkent · 17/11/2023 11:45

fiorentina · 17/11/2023 10:49

I would suggest nursery needs to deal with it more effectively if your child is getting hurt and you need to speak with them.
You would be surprised how differently children do act when not around their parents as well, not making excuses for them, but they may not be this way at home.

Unfortunately I've witnessed it in the que waiting for the gates to open. Parents normally scrolling through Facebook ignoring it just happy for someone else to put up with their little darlings for a while.

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Bigroundpear · 17/11/2023 11:48

@2under3inkent I’ve sent you a message. There’s ways of avoiding this, you need to be strategic. Good luck

JamSandle · 17/11/2023 11:49

fiorentina · 17/11/2023 10:25

Some children are more high energy or boisterous than others, but that doesn’t mean they are rude or unkind, they are just more into energetic play and are often more sporty when older.
If other children are actually being unkind or violent though then nursery should be dealing with it alongside their parents?
Hopefully your son will find similar friends at school.

That's not what OP is talking about though.

Yummymummy2020 · 17/11/2023 12:14

I have noticed this too, I definitely think it’s worse than it used to be with behaviour. There comes a point where it’s not an age thing and you see the parents ignoring the behaviour!

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2under3inkent · 17/11/2023 12:16

Yummymummy2020 · 17/11/2023 12:14

I have noticed this too, I definitely think it’s worse than it used to be with behaviour. There comes a point where it’s not an age thing and you see the parents ignoring the behaviour!

Exactly. I've heard excuses all the way from covid lockdown to screen time. I'm just a bit done with it.

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Jbrown76 · 17/11/2023 12:25

Can you also send me the message, also having similar problems

SwordToFlamethrower · 17/11/2023 17:59

Home education. I would never put my child in a state school and I can't afford an independant school, so home ed it is.