You all talk sense!
My ideal school? Well, consider this: I visited my DH's school on the occasion of a 25 year reunion. It's a state high in rural Australia. DH is quite academic, so we toured properly equipped chemistry labs, physics labs, bio rooms, the library. We looked at the performing arts block, the performance space, the lighting lofts. Then we went out the back to see the 'practical' classrooms, such as the woodwork room. Where were the wobbly benches with a couple of blunt hacksaws? The handful of bent nails? Oh no. Damn great shed with industrial, gantry mounted professional bandsaws! Professional lathes! Drills you could kill yourself with! Racks of real tools! Thence on the the Home Economics rooms- proper industrial kitchens, teaching catering on a commercial scale. Then to the FARM (remember we are talking rural Australia here). A proper, working full scale farm, arable and herds of cows, complete with all the trophies won by students at the agricultural shows for animal husbandry, sheds to teach motor mechanics, machines to lay fencing in straight lines. To me, the epitome of a 'proper' school that got kids into university to study science AND kids into trade apprenticeships with a good working knowledge of their chosen 'trade'. I know! Let's call it a Comprehensive!
To raise a couple of points, I don't think you can call the non-grammars in an area WITH grammars 'comprehensive'. They're not, they're secondary moderns.
Can I ask, blueblob, are you in Salisbury? Move towards Winchester!
My cards on the table: I went to a girls grammar (in Salisbury!). I had an excellent academic education, though I didn't take as much advantage of it as I should have. As for the secondary moderns in the area? My brother went to one, and it was rubbish in every sense of the word. He was disgracefully short changed and I so don't think doing that to 85-90% of DCs is morally acceptable, then or now.
I'd love to be able to send MY 2 x DSs to grammar (but they're not GS material esp as I can't afford to Prep them)... Why? Only because grammars support a strong learning ethos and ill discipline can be dealt with by the threat of being chucked out - to a secondary modern- sort of like reallytired says! Actually I don't WANT my DSs to go to a school where you're so up yourself you have poo in your hair (WE did at my school)- and isn't it funny how we all 'want' academia for our DCs but in reality what we want is for our DCs to be taught in ability appropriate groups in a supportive and disciplined environment? And sadly other than in 'critical-mass middle class' areas (such as Winchester) you only get the discipline part in grammars and private schools!