Reception settling and separation anxiety

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Good morning to all the beautiful ladies out there.

I am writing this thread today on the worst day ever so far since my daughter started reception.

It’s only early days since my daughter started reception and at the beginning, it was a little bit of tears however the second week is when reality hit and she starts crying from the moment she wakes up, refuses to get ready , crying so much to the point when she vomits and has diarrhoea and belly ache . She then cries all the way to school as well and shouts at teacher to “ get off her” when they try to console her.

she already attended nursery in the last year doing 6 hours a day everyday and she also was difficult on a off for during this time.

she loves to be at home with us surrounded by her toys and do things in her own time.

i believe she doesn’t like the structure and lack of freedom at reception, she doesn’t like dinner hall for some reason but today she was freaking out about PE and separation anxiety plays biggest part.

I am trying to be strong but I also go to work everyday and it spoils my mood terribly for the whole day . In my eyes it is such an unnecessary drama because we have been through it for 2 last years in nursery PT and then FT.

we try to console her but we are strict about going to school as it is a must in our eyes.

please if you have any advice how to approach this situation I would be most grateful.

thank you and have a wonderful day everyone .

Poor thing! Is it possible she’s suffered some abuse in nursery/ school? The physical symptoms are so extreme as well as being afraid of teacher coming close. This would be setting off alarm bells for me. I’d explore play therapy options to try and explore if something traumatic could have happened to her.
Personally I would do everything in my power to homeschool for now and re-evaluate further down the line. Or perhaps a Waldorf Kindergarten and then moving back to mainstream school might do her more good than mainstream right now if she has to go. (Waldorf gets a lot of hate here, personally I think the kindergartens are great but not past that).