Hi all, thanks for your responses I cant reply to them all but to answer a few of the questions:
I am a tenant of Cambridgeshire County Council, I rent the farm from them and they stipulate that the tenant must live in the house that comes with the farm. We have been here 4.5 years and this March my wife and I agreed to take the farm on for a further 5 years. This means I can't just walk out. My wife is a teacher employed by Cambs LEA, she has to work up until Christmas but could then find alternative employment. We didn't find out that our youngest (who is a boy btw!) failed to get a place in our chosen school until May. The appeals process took until 3 days before the end of term before we got a response.
It has nothing to do with patriarchy or whatever else some have concluded.
As things stand both children will be in school this September, we will have to make it work, we have contacted a childminder and will try to put something in place, I will have to do some school runs, whatever.
Our wider family run a chicken farm about 5 miles away in Suffolk, at which I also work, it is a very small team of 3 full time, obviously we may have to recruit, which is always a nightmare! There is a school there which would reduce our school run by about 3 miles. My Mum could help with pickups occasionally but she isn't in the best of health. However this is an option we are exploring. Cambridgeshire told us to go to Suffolk and ask them for help, we did and they told us to apply through the Cambridgeshire system. Cambridgeshire admissions portal has crashed and still isn't fixed and so we have had to apply with a paper form via email. However should we have further children (?!) we are again at the mercy of the system.
As to the fact that we should have expected this, maybe we should, I grew up in the Suffolk system and only moved to Cambs 4.5 years ago, so I hadn't realised the system was different, my wife teaches year 6 so she isn't at the admissions end of the school. It would take a braver man than me at the moment to suggest it was her fault! When we applied for our eldest as I said it was mid covid, my wife was looking after our then 1 and 3 year olds whilst teaching her class online, I was still working full time on the farm, sales of potatoes and eggs had collapsed, it was full on and fraught for all of us, we weren't on furlough drinking G & T's. I don't say that to whine or be a toddler, but the fact is we missed the crucial difference in the admissions criteria.
All that said, yes I am hacked off about it, our eldest will spend 40 miles a day in the car every day, with 1 parent doing the school run, this is too much and the admissions policy should be written such that it can't happen. If we lived in a town and they were in different schools a mile or so apart then it would be manageable. But some people do have to live out in the countryside, and there should be a limit on the journey times infant siblings can be subjected to. It may be too late for us, but if we create enough fuss it may help get the policy tweaked for rural dwellers in future years and help other parents then that would be an achievement of sorts.
There are endless complaints about the difficulty of finding farm labour, and also rural teachers, and this system just makes that shortage more likely, it's hugely counterproductive. But the systems are designed by people who live in urban environments, so there we are.
Anyway, tea break over, back to the harvest, lovely weather at last. 😁