Need advice for my year 7 please!

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hello,

my dd is in year 7, she is bright girl who got an offer from academic/selective independent school. we never had an tutor, just practiced at home for 11+ exams. she also got an art and music scholarship. she setteled really quickly and koves her school and friends. however recently she is not studying or practising her exams on her own.. when I check her account I see that she has an exam, I tell her to study at least 30 min but she doesnt do it. - she always wants to study with me.. By study with me I mean: (I ask her questions or write down the questions on paper and she answer them etc) but I think she needs to study on her own in secondary stage, also I am working I dont have enough time for that always. Last week, I asked her to stay in “study club” after school with her friends but unfortunately I was told that she didnt do any study there as well. If I spend time with her and if she study she gets %95-100 marks but when she doesnt study she gets so low grades especially in foreign languages.
I just wondered if I am the only one mummy here in this situation.
please share your ideas what do I need to do about this.. l dont want to make her feel sad but I also feel so sad when I see she gets really bad grades - because I know that she has an potential and can do it if she wants and study but definetely she is not self motivated to study.
maybe I am missing something? Or overthinking?

You need to leave her to it. Better to understand the consequences of not revising etc now than in a few years.

My dd did zero in years 7 to 9 (admittedly Covid disrupted the first two years). End of y9 saw her on track to fail all but two of her GCSEs based on predicted grades. She's in y10 now and that wake up call now means she's predicted 7-9 for most subjects barring science, where it's currently a 5/6.

She needs to be taught how to revise.
To find the correct technique for her and that does not come independently.
You need to research different techniques, provide her with the correct resources and then trial them with her and see which works. Perhaps the best technique for her is to be asked questions and to respond, revising with a partner is a legitimate technique.

How much time do you spend 1:1 with her? This might also be her way of asking for more attention.

Aged 11 I'm still helping DS2.
And will help his older brother when asked (usually when he's struggling with something)
As mentioned above, they need to learn how to do it - and it's something not specifically taught in schools.
We've gone for gentle distancing.
You say she asks you to write questions. Next time why don't you get her to write the 6 major areas for that test, so you can write then questions. Then the time after get her to write the questions. But you will need to sit with her.

You can also get prewritten flash cards from the likes of CGP which might work well for her.

She's not daft. She knows what works for her, and she asks for it

If it's not working for YOU, then you need to find other ways that work for her

As PPs have said, explore other revision methods with her. She does need to become independent when revising, but getting to that stage requires help for some