Who’s at fault

10 replies

Jodyjay06 · 21/01/2023 13:46

Hi I’m new here so please bare with me. My 15 year old granddaughter has came to live with me and every morning she has to get the bus to school. I check regularly her whereabouts through life 360 as she has to leave by 7 every morning and with no doubt life 360 says she is in the school grounds at 8.30 every day I’m receiving letters from the school because although she is in the grounds off the school at 8.30 she won’t attend attendance at 8.35 so is being signed in late. I’ve said to the school once she walks through them gates at 8.30 surely she is in the schools care not mine I can’t physically make her go to attendance as I’m not allowed in the school but am getting threats from the school warning me I will be taken to court who is at fault me or the school ?? I know it’s my granddaughter who should be in class but like I say they won’t let me physically take her to make sure she is the right classroom at 8.35. Any info would be helpful thank you

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LIZS · 21/01/2023 14:35

She is. What is she up to when she should be registering?

SeasonFinale · 21/01/2023 14:42

Tell your granddaughter to go to registration. Why isn't she?

TakeABite · 21/01/2023 14:53

Have you spoken to your granddaughter?

purplecorkheart · 21/01/2023 14:55

Why is she not going to registration?

Fladdermus · 21/01/2023 14:59

Why isn't she going to registration? Does she know that you're getting your knuckles rapped about it?

Hellocatshome · 21/01/2023 15:03

Ask them what they have done to discipline the lateness at school. Has she had detentions etc? Have the school pastoral team looked into why she isn't going to registration and offered support?

whatadaythatwas · 21/01/2023 15:04

Can you not deliver her to the reception office for 8:25 each day?

I did this for a bit my school refusing son albeit he was slightly younger 12 or 13

grapehyacinthisactuallyblue · 21/01/2023 15:05

Neither you nor school, it's your granddaughter's fault. But since she is a minor, you will be responsible. Why doesn't she go to the register? Does she know what's happening?

Ilovethewild · 21/01/2023 15:13

Op, as gd is not living with her parents, she has had some upheaval.

what are the school doing around pastoral care to support her?

this behaviour is common for children who are struggling (avoiding crowds, questions, noise, wanting 1-1 but not knowing how to ask, or just struggling with everything!)

do you have PR? Will school meet with you to discuss? Are parents involved? Can they help?

ask for meeting, gd is struggling and punitive punishments may not be the best way forward…

lanthanum · 21/01/2023 15:33

What does she say?

If she's struggling with the crowds, then maybe arrangements can be made so she can get to registration early, or register elsewhere.

If she's going off to a corner of the field to smoke with her friends, then that's rather different.
Our local SEBD school has a member of staff with a walkie-talkie meeting the taxis that deliver the children - he lets the staff inside know when each kid arrives, so there's no sneaking off on the way in.

Can you store the data from life 360? Then you have evidence that you're doing your bit, should they take you to court.

Flip