my sister works at same school as her "difficult" ds, some advice for her please...

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she's finding it difficult to do her job because other members of staff are constantly wanting to discuss her ds' behaviour with her during the school day. She finding it really stressful. I suggested she ask for a proper after school meeting with his teacher to ask what the school's plan is for dealing with his behaviour and how she can support him AT HOME. Any tips for ways she can make it clear she does not wish to hear about him during the day without her seeming like an unsupportive parent?

My friend's a teacher and her school used to have a parent of a very difficult boy who was a staff member at the school (TA, I think). She was always running off and sorting him out, and 'getting him out of trouble' or so it seemed. I think some staff wished that she would do what you're suggesting and do her job in school hours.

I think she needs to be very upfront and say 'I don't want this to affect my doing my job. If it's a situation where you would usually call in the parents, then call me. If not then after school meetings and letters home as you would normally.' Even to say I hope you don't think it's unsupportive, then people have the opportunity to comment.

I hope she gets it sorted out.

I agree with psw - it's not fair to burden her with worry / guilt when she might never have known if she wasn't there at the time

I think she feels she gets to hear about the minor annoyances he causes as well as the major ones which of course she needs to know about. The teacher has commented behind her back to the headteacher that she isn't being supportive so she feels a bit "got at". I think pinkspottywellies' line is useful, will suggest to her. I also think she needs to make it clear to ds that he must not expect her to sort out his problems during the day either as he regularly comes crying to her when he gets into trouble.