Bless you, OP, you are one of the many parents who sees the outward appearances that “lovely little schools” portray and believe that this somehow demonstrates the nice calm life that teachers and heads must have. I work in a school office and the amount of times I’ve had a parent ring up at 4.30 and ask if a particular teacher is still there or gone home, or express surprise that I’ve answered the phone at 5.15 (I’m supposed to finish at 4:30 anyway). They always say to me “oh!! I thought you’d go home soon after the kids go home!”
they are genuinely surprised to hear that teachers are there till they get thrown out by the caretaker at 5.30, prepping or in a meeting or phoning parents or organising trips etc and often if the head locks up because they have urgent deadlines the teachers will stay late with them. I always make sure that parents realise that the teachers go home to eat dinner and then start back on their work at home.
I’m ashamed to say that until I’d worked in schools I used to be one of those naiive parents too. I had no idea the amount of work that goes on in school to make it run smoothly and to give children the quality of education they have. As for head teachers, my office is next to hers and it has been a total eye opener. Yes, her office is lovely and calm, and that’s what parents see when they visit, but they don’t see the crises that happen in there. They don’t see the phone calls to police, social workers and other care agencies that goes on each day, the constant safeguarding stuff that is batted back to schools all the time because other agencies don’t seem to have the manpower to deal with it.
Parents just think they are there on the yard supervising every morning, then they go in and do assembly, make a few phone calls to parents, sign a few letters and cheques, visit a few classrooms to observe, hand out stickers and certificates to children sent to her office, write a few policies, have a meeting with staff after the children go home, and not much else. If ONLY that’s all they were doing. I do think their role has changed a lot since I was at school in the 80s. Much expanded.
i wouldn’t be a head for all the tea in China and don’t blame any of them for leaving. My own has just resigned after giving her life over to the school. She wants to see her family more. When they get to a certain age and have aging parents and grandchildren then who can blame them?