What would you do?

[LetsBekindx]

My ds is in reception, he hasn't had the best starts he's had issues with another girl name calling and being physical toward him. Anyway went to the teacher he said the physical stuff has stopped but name calling still happening and her being 'angry' with him. Which im obviously not happy with as it hasn't stopped completely.

Anyway school have just phoned there has been a incident, ds answered a math question correctly the child sat next to him got mad and spat in his face!!! Obviously im furious, his teacher said they have dealt with it and will speak to child's parents etc. Obviously i have no idea if its the girl hes had issues with or someone else.

I really want to change schools , hes my first am i overreacting and being a bit ott?

I just feel that my ds os constantly getting the sh*t end of the stick and i go in and nothing really happens. He says hes happy and wants to go there so would changing schools be more upset.

I mean...it's not ideal but do you have an alternative that you know will be better? If he's happy and still wants to go in, and if you feel like the teachers are taking it seriously, I would probably stick it out a little longer to see how things develop over the year, and whether it's just a need for the other kids to be socialised with others and learn how to behave in a group.

Reception is a tricky year where they are really still so tiny - some kids will still only be 4 years old, practically toddlers, and this might be the first time they're being disciplined by anyone other than a parent or been around kids that are not their siblings (especially after the years of covid lockdowns, parents might have been shielding when they were younger, etc). Your DS's comments about the girl being "angry" might also be his perception but not necessarily intentional, I remember my DS1 saying that he was constantly being "shouted at" and "chased" but when I myself observed this "shouting" it was nothing more than usual playground happy screaming and running around - he learned by Christmas that there was no malice in it. DS2 was also bitten by a kid twice in reception and had a lot of conflict with another but that tailed off over time.

I'd probably hang in there a bit longer and see how things develop.

Your son says he is happy. Trust that ... also keep sight of your own instict. Hopefully all will get better. The children are adjusting and some come from very different places and all need to learn the rules. Be proud that your son is not the mean one and that he is behaving well. Focus on the positives and keep listening to your son and being a caring parent.