DS head of year called me yesterday to go in and see her today. She wouldnt tell me except to say it was serious and that she would wait and see how much ds told me.
So I sit Ds down and ask calmly if he has anything to tell me. Out it comes. He was caught sending notes in class, apparantly it had been going on all lesson and the note used some very rude explicit words, and some he has never heard in this house! He wouldnt tell me what they were but did confirm he hadnt heard them anywhere except school. He tells me the notes were because he lost he temper after weeks of name calling and said he felt provoked.
I think there are a number of issues here, firstly he didnt tell me he was unhappy with the name calling. We could have talked about how to handle it and controlling his temper. Secondly in no way is his work good enough to even think about not concentrating on the teacher. Thirdly, using those words, although I am not happy I am less bothered about that as I dont think its something he does all the time. He is asking not to go to school now. Have sent him anyway.
Next is how to handle the teacher, yes he was wrong on a number of levels, regardless of provocation and he needs to be punished, however Ds tells me the teacher did not ask for any background to the situation nor would she let him say anything other than what had happened in the lesson. so he hasnt had the chance to say that he has been verbally bullied for a number of weeks and this just caused him to flip out. He isnt a perfect child however I do want to do the right thing. What do you think the punishment should be for misbehaving in class, disrespectful to the techer and bad language? And what would you think the outcome should be regarding the verbal bullying?
TIA, a very despondant starmummy.