GOING TO SCHOOL

[sammcg]

The first couple of weeks my daughter went in fine, even although we had to take her nearenough right to the door. just after the october break, she had gastroentritis and was off for a couple of days. This past week, she has physically making herself sick when she gets to the school, is okay, wants to go, happy when she gets there etc. she said sometimes nobody plays with her, but she has got to have something to do or play wtih. This morning, I takes her down and one of the primary 7's comes over, and says are you going outside to play with your friends today giving the indication that she didn't go out. There are also a lot of family background problems, her dad and I aren't getting on, etc, but I have reassured her, that we will both be there for her, even although there is a lot of shouting. etc.. i don't know what else to do.. the school have said she's fine , coping with the work etc..

sammcq, this little girl sounds as though she is hearing things that frighten her. If you and her dad are having problems , make sure she doesn't hear them. Remember just because she SHOULD be sleeping when you are discussing or shouting or ? she probably isn't. She is keeping lots inside and needs a great deal of reassurance from both of you and to know that SHE is not responsible for adults problems. Little ones do get these ideas and it is good that you are aware and looking for solutions. Is there a counsellor at school. They can be helpful if you get the right one that meets your needs and those of your daughter. Wishing you all the best. Sue

It sound as though she is trying to get your attention. Maybe she feels that she is left out at home because of the problems. What about putting little notes in her coat pockets and packed luch box, if she takes one. They could be from both you and your husband. This might make her feel that you are with her at school. Just a thought.

Obviously I meant lunch box. Dopey!!!!!