Hiya nasa - wow, that must have been quite a feat; reading the whole thing! - I hope you were enthused; it sounds like you were!
It's ages since I read the Diane McGuinness book to be honest - once it was all inwardly digested, I just set about putting it into practice and have kind of forgotten all the intricacies of it - perhaps aloha can confirm for me! - but I do believe she does cover phoneme pornunciation; I know that's where I became enlightened about the sound for 'y' in its initial position. I discovered the 'qu' sound with my class though, as we were dealing with it one day.
I find the best thing to do is say some words to yourself - with the sound you are focussing on at the end of the word - to hear the sounds in their pure form. So, when saying 'grass' you can hear it ends with a 'ssss' sound, not 'suh.' We don't say 'grassuh.' With 'stop', we finish with a silent 'p' sound, not a vocalised 'puh.' Many sounds have no vocalised sound; they are just 'whispered' - e.g. when you say 'hot' it is only the 'o' that has any loud sound; the beginning adn the end are just air sounds.
Incidentally, jabberwocky, excited though I was to hear of your ds pronunciation of 'q' I will just mention that do you think he was trying to say 'queue' as in the name of the letter? You will know if he is likely to mispronounce it this way. Sorry to appear negative - am just incredibly amazed and impressed if he really did hear the sounds like that - which is very possible; children don't have the pre-conceived sound training that we have had - but I thought I would just explore this possibility before becoming totally excited by his abilitites!! (My teacher assessment habits kicking in here, I'm sure...!)
I have no idea where the 'a, buh, cuh, duh etc alphabet originated. I guess it was when people realised sounds were important in words but diodn't explore it to its fullest and didn't listen properly to the sounds we really say. The thing is, this type of phonics training is in fact quite old so people have been getting it right somewhere down the line; just not sure what went wrong!
Teaching 'the alphabet' has different value depending on how you define it.
If you teach the letetr names, and presumably the order, perhaps by the alphabet song, you are doing no more than teaching children a song to which they rememebr the 'words' however nonsense like they appear! (I love the way we have discovered a new word - 'elemenowpee' and its various versions!) It rarely means much to children when they see the letters individually. The letetr names only serve to identify each letter by name - like we identify people by names. Sounds are what children need to be aware of and fluent in to read and write and to teach the letter anmes can only be confusing to most children.
To teach the capitals is also confusing as children experience lower case letetrs at school; in their writing and in books, with only capitals touched upon at the start of their names and sentences and at that gradual occurence, can be taken on board well.
As you will no doubt be aware, nasa, clearly how we experienced teaching at school did work for most of us - you and I are reading fine - but there are so many illiterate adults that could have been 'saved' by more effective teaching and so many of this generation that could be heading the same way. ALdo, many of us do have trouble with spelling, as a very different skill from reading, and this could be improved for us with proper sound/letter knowledge.
(No, you're not being thick - people just don't have this information at their fingertips! We have been reading fluently for too long to think about it until it becomes relevant e.g. concern for our chidlren at school. Teachers don't have this information to hand either, although things are improving gradually - it is scandalous that the Government is not promoting reading teaching like they shouild be.)
mumto2boys, you soudn liek me - I still have my Faraway Tree at my dad's house, saved ready! You are right to encourage but not 'push'. CXHIldren often call all numbers and letter one or the other - I guess, to their new eyes, they are all just shapes looking fairly similar and they attach the label that they feel more comfortable with.
Yes, I think you can take it that Jolly Phonics is a fun way to learn to read! If you visit Jolly Learning's site they have case studies where teachers describe how popular it is. I have also had many parents use it at hoem - some of the resources are, I feel, more appropriate for more informal use at home.