Hi Seeker,
Sorry, thought I had responded to this. Perhaps I dreamt it?
To be honest I barely understand her homework, let alone help her to understand what is required. Also she hates having to ask my advice, let alone me offering it. So usually let her decide she needs help then try to show her how to use different techniques.
I would always try to back up the school, and this is where the problem lies, though some of her teachers 'moan' about the amount of work she produces the actual feedback we get is they wished other students would give a fraction of the effort she puts in and seem generally pleased with her work. So would end up with school saying great v mum and dad saying its too much mum and dad would lose.
At one point we had to talk to one of her teachers. She was doing her homework on the computer and then writing it out by hand because this was what was asked for. We explained that she had spent a couple of days researching and typing it out, and then another hour and half just writing it out. We felt she was spending too long on homework and asked if either she be allowed to hand it in typed out or for him to be more specific what was required. No problem, she can print her homework off!
At the moment no one is worrying about her not coping with timed exams. She copes well with them. I should perhaps mention she has Aspergers and as long as there is not too much disruption will remain focused on the task and will generally finish ahead of her peers.
She did sit French GCSE last year, but didn't sit the written exam due to being assaulted. She still got a D, which was a dissapointment as she was expected to get a C or B. Plus she dropped it this year as she felt it was her weakest subject and wanted other choices.
I do think she spends too much time on her homework, but then it is also her choice. She does have a few friends and goes out with them, and does other things.