Teenager not going to school

[Notsoblonde]

I have not posted for years but I am at my wits end and worried!
Dd2 has missed at least 2 terms of school, we are in Scotland and like everyone else due to lock down she missed the last half of p7 and the first half of first year. When they returned to school she was bullied for standing up for someone and was isolated for approx 6 months. I knew something was up and kept asking her but she kept saying everything was fine and was going to school as normal. In the summer holidays she broke down and told everything and said she didn't wish to return to that school. So we moved her to the other secondary school for a fresh start. First term was brilliant she made lots of friends and loved school, then she became unwell with her stomach and the gp thought she had coeliac so had to go for scopes and appointments, she was often to unwell to attend school. The results came back that she has ibs and chronic fatigue and advised to build routine back into her day, ie attend school part time.
She is now anxious about school and missing loads! I don't feel school are taking things seriously and I have been asking for meetings/school work/ support but have had very little.
Does anyone have any advice?
Sorry for the essay!

Hi OP sorry to hear that your DD had been through such a difficult time. I don’t have much advice I’m afraid as I’ve not been in a similar situation, but I didn’t want to read and run. Who have you been in contact with so far? At our school there’s a head of year as well as a pastoral team and a nurse. Then there’s the individual teachers for homework. I’d go in and try to make appointments with as many people as possible until you get a structured plan/routine for her.

If you repost your message in AIBU I’m sure you’ll get more useful advice. Best of luck x

Thank you for replying, we have a pupil care and support teacher (all the pupils have them) no pastoral support and I have been asking for work, other meeting after Easter holidays is booked so hopefully we get some where and yes your right about aibu but I don't think I am strong enough for that thread just now.
Thank you again.

HCP here
I'm sorry your DD is going through this @Notsoblonde

School are not the experts on managing pupils with medical conditions.
You and your DD know her condition well and what she can manage fatigue wise.

I would draw up a timetable yourself with gradual increase of hours in school. Run it by your GP or any nurse practitioner/ therapist involved with her care.
Then ask for a meeting with head of year or pastoral teacher and school nurse to discuss the practicalities of fitting your DD needs into school day, short days, rest breaks etc, she may only start with 2 half days a week.

Have clear plan in place for this happening in summer term which your DD is on board with. Don't leave this any longer as if her anxiety builds you don't want DD to become avoidant of school

Good luck