DS is due to start primary school in September. Ex has shown a bit of an interest but has left all of the hard work to me- going to open days, looking at reports and reviews etc.
After looking at a variety of schools I have decided that I want to enrol DS in an international school. I do not have the nationality but I lived in this country for a long time and feel a big emotional connection. It is also a country that frequently pops up on lists of countires with the best quality of life. One of the reasons I want DS to go there is so that it will be easier for him to study and wodk there in the future if he decised thats what he wants and I also do not want to rule out the possiblity of DS and I moving there at some point in the future where he would have to integrate in to the local education system. Even if we never end up living in the country the school has a very good repuation and kids get a good education.
Ex is not against the school in theory but he has a younger child and his argument is that he will never be able to give the youngr child the same quality of eduction amd its not fair for one child to have a much better standard of education than the other. He is very much playing the equality card and saying he cant have one kid privately educated and the other not. The younger child will probably end up at a school in a deprived area where standards are not great so I see his point about vastly different education experiences but I also dont feel like my son should be penalised because EX has had another child that he struggles to afford.
Im not asking him to contribute to the school fees so I just feel like telling him to shut up and accept it but also I think if the roles were reversed I wouldn't be happy about it either.
Any advice on how go deal with it without causing resentment.