My DD went to St Albans High School, sorry Deegward, it is not all all pushy, academic yes, but not in the same way as Habs. The pastoral care is superb. My DD was not pushed at all, she could have done a lot better, ie 10 A* instead of 6 and 4 A's, and 5 A's at A instead of only 4, but we were happy with that, she was never ever pushed to do more.
16 girls from Abbots Hill applied for the 6th form at SAHS , they have to get all A's at GCSAE and preferably A* in the subject they want to study for A level.I think they all got those sort of results at Abbots Hill, 6 came to SAHS, the others went to Haileybury, Marlborough etc
I have many friends with daughters at both, past and present, very happy with both.
( I actually look after the children of 6 SAHS teachers, and collect their daughters from the Junior school ( reception) in Wheathampstead)
Reallytired, I wonder if the person you refer to is the person I know, three daughters, two at SAHS and the kicked out one now at Egerton Rothesay via FH in London?
Both lovely schools.