Hi Northernrefugee39, I haven't been online for a few days. Sorry to hear what you are going through, I can understand how upset you are, I guess its because like you say you want to have some resolution and understanding of what happened.
I never did go back to the school, even though its very near to where I live, I drive past it most days and as much as I try to move on there is a feeling of dread that goes through me each time. I have alluded to some of my experiences to other steiner parents who are still there but there seems to be this air of my not fully 'understanding' steiner or not being spiritually advanced enough to 'trust' in the belief system.
I saw your links - thank you so much for posting them, the more I read about other peoples experiences, the more spiritually advanced I feel for having questioned them and walked away!
Have you joined the steiners survivors group(wasso)? I highly recommend them, lovely people who completely understand. I had so many kind replies when I finally got the courage together to join. Another thought I have had is writing a letter to the local paper to expose what the school is doing or putting an advert in paper/post office to see if there are others (which there must be) who would like to meet and talk, but the danger of someone from the school pretending to be a survivor would be my worst kind of nightmare.
I am online tonight so I'll keep checking if you want to talk.
Barking xx