Stressed out seven year old

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How can I comfort/encourage my dd who worries about everything. She was up crying last night and this morning, worried about computer class today. She is a real whizz at home but because school computer is slightly different she is afraid that she will do something wrong. Dh and myself have shown her on our own computer that even if you make a mistake it doesn't matter and if something major goes wrong, nobody is going to get cross anyway. I have asked her if someone has given out to her and she says no. My concern is that she really does worry about the slightest things, computer class just happens to be this week. It can be music, netball, change of class teacher for a few hours, all of these and more. She gets lots of praise for trying,not only when she is successful, but has this 'I can't do it' phrase How can I help her?

Have you talked to the teacher about this? They may be able to help with reassurance in class to back up what you are saying at home.
Has she always worried about things, or is it a recent thing?

She has always been a bit of a worrier but it has escalated in the last year or so. I'm just worried that it will stay with her when she gets older and cause more problems. Dd has come back from school and everything was fine, no problems with computer, with stand-in teacher or anything else. Her usual teacher is so understanding, and dd loves her. I have spoken to her on various occasions and she knows dd is a worrier. I just wondered if anybody tried yoga or similar with their children.

ww - your daughter could be mine I think. She too worries about everything and I frequently am taking her to school crying because of something. She was crying today because she's going to tea at a friends house that she's not been to before - she likes her friend but is just WORRIED about going to her house!!! I also find it very hard to know how to help her. She gets lots of praise like you say and I am going to try a reward system for not crying going to school. I would be very interested to hear from anyone else too.

How old is she?

She's 7. I really feel for her. She just gets herself so upset over little things (well they're clearly not little to her, at 7) and its so difficult to help her to understand that as you said nothing really bad is going to happen if she does x or y. She gets very nervous about unfamiliar situations but to the point where she would just rather not do things. . Has your daughter always been like this or is it a recent thing?

She has been like this for a long time. I have even taken her to a homeopath to try and get some remedies, which I give if I know something is coming up that will probably unsettle her. Dh was very shy when he was small and I suppose I was a bit shy. I don't know if this figures into it as dd2 doesn't seem to be at all shy. I think since she was about three she has been like this. I wish I could just magic a whole lot of confidence into her. It would be brilliant.